Mike,
It sounds for all the world like you had a guy who thought you should just "get over it". If that's the case, then bravo - it was great you fired him.
You need a therapist who can begin by validating and empathizing with how you feel, rather than shrugging it all off. If he can't understand why a survivor would still be angry after 29 years, well, he just has no business at all working with one. Does he think you would ever be able to trust him if your feelings mean nothing to him?
Much love,
Larry