I dont want him to find out.(triggers.)
Orlando,
firstly, welcome here. I am very sorry for what happened to you, and your fears of telling anyone about it, although that is not uncommon.
I have a girlfriend. We have known each other as friends for almost 7 years. We have been actually 'dating' like for 9 or 10 months now, although we have had our ups and downs. And we have not had an intimate relationship yet. I think that someone who truly cares about you, it is not 'stress' to them to not be engaging in something that would be stressful and harmful to YOU.
Meanwhile, this friend is still waiting for your answer? That sounds like someone who really cares of you. He may be a good person to open up to, and you can also say that because of the situation, that is why you have so much fear of getting involved with him.
I hope that you will get help to get through this situation, and I wish you good luck.
Leosha
firstly, welcome here. I am very sorry for what happened to you, and your fears of telling anyone about it, although that is not uncommon.
I have a girlfriend. We have known each other as friends for almost 7 years. We have been actually 'dating' like for 9 or 10 months now, although we have had our ups and downs. And we have not had an intimate relationship yet. I think that someone who truly cares about you, it is not 'stress' to them to not be engaging in something that would be stressful and harmful to YOU.
Meanwhile, this friend is still waiting for your answer? That sounds like someone who really cares of you. He may be a good person to open up to, and you can also say that because of the situation, that is why you have so much fear of getting involved with him.
I hope that you will get help to get through this situation, and I wish you good luck.
Leosha