I can't always help others but want to

I can't always help others but want to
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Grunty1967b

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I want to help other people more than I do in here. By that I mean giving input on other boards such as Friends and Family. I have done that on occasion but feel and want to post more but I cant bring myself to do that. What is that?
 
go easy bro -

you give


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we all got to keep some
 
n maybe u feel more ok
on certain boards cause of

the focus?

it's all good dude-
 
Grunty,

You know, helping others here is talking about ourselves. When others read our words, they identify with those parts that speak to them. In that, alone, we are helping someone else. We're not expected to do therapy here or be experts in what's going on with us. It's the process of talking about how we see things and how we are affected by what happened to us that helps others understand maybe what they're going through.
So, Grunty, you've helped folks with your observations and haven't even known it. Keep posting, and when what someone else says strikes a chord with you, tell the rest of us how you feel about what was similar or different from what you see in yourself.

David
 
again

you give nice stuff -

go easy bro -


m
 
Bruce,

I wouldn't worry about that. As David says, we all make contributions to others in all kinds of ways that we may not fully appreciate.

I think the main thing is communication. If you read a post that strikes a responsive chord in you, reply to it if you can. Help can take many forms: words of support and encouragement and sharing your own experience of the issue can be just as important, or more important, than suggesting a solution. A lot of times we just need to hear that we are not alone.

If somehow you feel the words aren't coming, give it a rest and come back later, or maybe you just aren't ready for that one yet. I so often see posts that really inspire me, but I just don't have anything to add.

You ask: "What is that?" I think it means you are a caring person. But that's already a lot Bruce! Don't feel bad because you don't have answers for everything that moves you. We are all in that boat.

Take care,
Larry
 
Grunty, you're doing just fine. Remember ... small baby steps, be patient and gentle with yourself. You are contributing, you are helping. It is good to have you here. Peace, Andrew
 
I agree with Andrew and the others. You are helping. You really are. Just by being her and posting you are helping me and the other guys.

Keep up the courage, :cool:

John
 
Grunty - don't worry, just look at how many people are registered here (nearly 3000).

Could you imagine what this board would be like if we all posted every day & all responded to each others postings.

It's best that we post when we feel that we need to.

When I first came here (31/12/03 - D:M:Y), I thought that I had to respond to everyone in response to the support that I received. Once I began to settle, I realised that I did not need to do that - there are many of us here, there will always be someone to support if we cannot do it ourselves.

I used to worry when people that had previously added to my posts no longer seemed to be around. What I now realise is that people come here & find some comfort, realise that they are gaining strength and don't need to come here so much (or be so active in posting).

Post what you feel comfortable with - there are no rules that say we must add 10 new posts per year and respond to 200 other posts or we will be excommunicated.

Sometimes I only come here once per week, other times it's every night - it's what I need (selfish?) that counts.

Best wisehs ...Rik
 
Grunty - don't worry, just look at how many people are registered here (nearly 3000).

Could you imagine what this board would be like if we all posted every day & all responded to each others postings.

It's best that we post when we feel that we need to.

When I first came here (31/12/03 - D:M:Y), I thought that I had to respond to everyone in response to the support that I received. Once I began to settle, I realised that I did not need to do that - there are many of us here, there will always be someone to support if we cannot do it ourselves.

I used to worry when people that had previously added to my posts no longer seemed to be around. What I now realise is that people come here & find some comfort, realise that they are gaining strength and don't need to come here so much (or be so active in posting).

Post what you feel comfortable with - there are no rules that say we must add 10 new posts per year and respond to 200 other posts or we will be excommunicated.

Sometimes I only come here once per week, other times it's every night - it's what I need (selfish?) that counts.

Best wishes ...Rik
 
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