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I am new here
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vinnie

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I have never seeked any help with this and things seem to be making me feel crazy for the last year. I don't know when to turn and the confusion and anxiety I feel really is taking control of my thought process. Right now just doing this is making me shake all over. What next!
 
Vinnie, hey you got past the hard part. Just posting for the first time on a forum like this can be very daunting.

Firstly, welcome, keep your mind safe in here, dont take too much in.

Post if and when you feel ready, you have made a giant step, it will get easier from now on,

take care,

ste
 
Welcome to Male Survivor, Vinnie. Buddy, we've all felt what you are feeling. Talk to us. Let us help you and give you suggestions.

I've been coming here since May and it has definitely made a difference in my life. These guys know and understand what you're talking about and what you are feeling.

Like ste said, move at your own pace. Don't feel pressured to read or post more than you feel comfortable with. It's all about you, Vinnie, and how you can deal with your own issues.
 
I have never been more afraid than I am now. I have gone through bouts of depression in the past this one seems to not let go. I have always thought if I just blocked out the past I would feel normal like everyone else. I am really not doing well with now days. I have never been able to make close friends so talking to someone is out of the question. That makes me feel badly and only more aware of how hard life is. I don't know where else to turn.
 
Vinnie,
Let me add my welcome to everyone else's. I am sorry you need us. Just take your time, post what you feel comfortalbe posting. You have found some of the best men in the world to help you through this time of your life. A lot of us find this place and read post for weeks/months before ever saying so much as a "HI". You have taken a very big step, you are not alone. We are here to walk with you if you need us too.

James
 
Vinnie
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I can't answer that because I don't know what it is you want, but I can tell you that we as Survivors can reach whatever place we want.

Is it easy? no, but it's worth it I promise you.

Stick around, there's some terrific support and help here.

Dave
 
Vinnie - all I can say to you is that it is nearly a year since I made my first post here (new years eve - I had viewed the site a few times before that).

I have gone from being a suicidal wreck to someone that is so much more in control. I have found so much strength here that I have now made a 15 page stament of complaint against my abuser (potential court case).

I can guess how you might feel right now ....believe me you can find so much strength here.

Best wishes ...Rik
 
Vinnie,

welcome here. I am sorry you have need to be here. But to find it, and make your first post, those are positive things you have done for yourself here.

As for 'what's next', that is hard to say. We are all on the same path, toward healing from the past. But we are at different places on it, with different obstacles. We all have different ways of dealing, and the process will be different for all of us. Just try to be patient and gentle with yourself, ask for help when you need it, and try to accept the support you will get here.

leosha
 
Thank You I dont know why after all this time things are so tuff now days. Is there never a point where this all goes away with time.
 
Vinnie,

I want you to take a moment and realize what a wonderful step you've taken by posting here. Long journeys begin with a single step. Feel pride in the fact that despite your depression you found this board, and posted a message. There's a long road ahead of you, but by simply starting to look for help you've proven that you're up to it.

Congratulations!
 
Welcome to MS Vinnie.
I don't know that it ever goes away, but there are good or at least less bad times, and then there are really bad times. We are all there too, and we are here to help each other. Take care, and know that you are not alone.
 
Vinnie, welcome aboard.

When I was a nervous wreck my guide suggested some meditative practises.

It wasn't always the pure meditation, sometimes it was painting, cooking or creative writing. And at other times I did dancing, taichi, exercise.

Something that would relax my mind. Something that would just get my system going and release all that heavy energy.

Now when ever I get stuck in my mental storm I quickly go back to observing my breath. And wait for the tide to subside.

Sometimes all I need to clear my head is simply take a long walk.

:)
 
Hi Vinnie. Like you, I am new. Good luck to you and read alot, both here (on this board) and books. It's helped me alot, so far. Again, good luck and dont be a stranger. :D
 
Hi Vinnie,

I'm new here too at 57!! Better now than never. All of this has become unmanageable (like it ever was) so I'm trying to be courageous. I think this site is a good place to be.
 
It took 40 years for me to get help.
this place is like a sanctuary.

Welcome aboard!!!!
 
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