I am done
I am done
- Thread startercoolcat
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Coolcat,
Please don't go. I know how you feel. It is taking all of my limited courage to stay. I feel this betrayal just as strongly. Just yesterday I took a chance and twice have been used. But leaving lets them win.
You have been a victim once. Don't be victim again.
We need you. I need you.
Marc
Please don't go. I know how you feel. It is taking all of my limited courage to stay. I feel this betrayal just as strongly. Just yesterday I took a chance and twice have been used. But leaving lets them win.
You have been a victim once. Don't be victim again.
We need you. I need you.
Marc
Don't go, don't let this bitch ruin it for you. I feel betrayed as well, I stayed up for 2 hours online just incase, "NAO" needed to talk via IM. I felt so bad for him. I couldn't go to sleep. Everytime I saw that NAO had been seen on the board, I would stay up a little later hoping I could help them.
If you don't do it for yourself, do it for all of the real people who need your support, there are many people hear reaching out for help, don't let 1 person out of so many ruin this for you.
If we can not stop you from leaving, let me wish you all the best in your recovery. This is not a group I ever wanted to belong to but it is my favorite by far.
If you don't do it for yourself, do it for all of the real people who need your support, there are many people hear reaching out for help, don't let 1 person out of so many ruin this for you.
If we can not stop you from leaving, let me wish you all the best in your recovery. This is not a group I ever wanted to belong to but it is my favorite by far.
Please do not let one very misguided individual destroy what we all do for each other here....it has seriousyl fu**** me off to read that I have personally been taken for a ride.
If you look at the closed topics in friends & family, I have added many of the responses supporting Nao & the imaginary family - I am not going to let this wasted effort stop me from supporting others. It may well be that someone else just read my comments & got some benefit from them...that's what I'm trying to think of now.
Gus, Mike & Marc - stay here & support each other...thanks ..Rik
If you look at the closed topics in friends & family, I have added many of the responses supporting Nao & the imaginary family - I am not going to let this wasted effort stop me from supporting others. It may well be that someone else just read my comments & got some benefit from them...that's what I'm trying to think of now.
Gus, Mike & Marc - stay here & support each other...thanks ..Rik
Gus,
You are a good and caring person. You have offered a hand of support and compassion to someone that you thought needed it. That was the right thing to do. Heather was entirely wrong to use us in that way. She was just one. There are so many good men (including teenagers) here that are supportive and deserving of support. You are deserving of that support and caring that you have shown.
I can only hope that you decide to stay and remain as the valuable member you have been.
Bill
You are a good and caring person. You have offered a hand of support and compassion to someone that you thought needed it. That was the right thing to do. Heather was entirely wrong to use us in that way. She was just one. There are so many good men (including teenagers) here that are supportive and deserving of support. You are deserving of that support and caring that you have shown.
I can only hope that you decide to stay and remain as the valuable member you have been.
Bill
theo
Registrant
gus,
several months ago i felt i had to leave this site as well over some things that disturbed me greatly. what i learned in that hiatus was that the people who were lashing out and making this site unsafe for me did not reflect the rest of the community here. i stayed away for several weeks and people continued to ask for me and kept reaching out to me. i have to watch out for myself because that is the most important thing in my recovery and only i know my comfort and safety level. heather was wrong and stupid, but she does not reflect the truth of this brotherhood of survivors. if you can, please stay. if it helps, just lurk for a while, or respond/pm to those you know are mods or longterm members. you know your comfort and safety level, gus. we are here for you whenever you need us.
several months ago i felt i had to leave this site as well over some things that disturbed me greatly. what i learned in that hiatus was that the people who were lashing out and making this site unsafe for me did not reflect the rest of the community here. i stayed away for several weeks and people continued to ask for me and kept reaching out to me. i have to watch out for myself because that is the most important thing in my recovery and only i know my comfort and safety level. heather was wrong and stupid, but she does not reflect the truth of this brotherhood of survivors. if you can, please stay. if it helps, just lurk for a while, or respond/pm to those you know are mods or longterm members. you know your comfort and safety level, gus. we are here for you whenever you need us.
Fellows, we have a fraud come here once or at most twice in a year. They have an uncanny way of letting us know that they are a fraud--although they don't seem to realise that.
Most frauds leave rather quickly but now and then one stays. That makes us feel insecure, betrayed and used. No one likes those feelings--most of all survivors.
It is disgusting--and for me, embarassing, to fall for a story and start feeling all kinds of compassion and affection for someone I think is surely a hurting person, and then find out that they were a fraud.
But it is good to know that this really does happen rarely. We can trust people here. We surely want to take some time to get to know them and their story. Still, we will not be betrayed by over 99% of the posters here.
So, lets stay together and continue our good work here. There are so many wonderful guys here and so much wisdom and compassion, that the rare Judas can't spoil it all for us.
Peace men!
Bob
Most frauds leave rather quickly but now and then one stays. That makes us feel insecure, betrayed and used. No one likes those feelings--most of all survivors.
It is disgusting--and for me, embarassing, to fall for a story and start feeling all kinds of compassion and affection for someone I think is surely a hurting person, and then find out that they were a fraud.
But it is good to know that this really does happen rarely. We can trust people here. We surely want to take some time to get to know them and their story. Still, we will not be betrayed by over 99% of the posters here.
So, lets stay together and continue our good work here. There are so many wonderful guys here and so much wisdom and compassion, that the rare Judas can't spoil it all for us.
Peace men!
Bob
James_dup1
Registrant
Coolcat,
Please do not let this sub-person win over you healing. What "heather" did was wrong. We have no controll over "her", what we do have is controll over the way we as a group move forward and show sub-people just like "her" that we will not be quite any longer. We can yell from the roof tops we will not let anyone take our safe place from us. We have the power and the control. At this point we can choice to let her stop us from healing or we can vent our anger and show "her" that while we are very very mad at "her" we can still heal no matter what. I hope you stay.
James
Please do not let this sub-person win over you healing. What "heather" did was wrong. We have no controll over "her", what we do have is controll over the way we as a group move forward and show sub-people just like "her" that we will not be quite any longer. We can yell from the roof tops we will not let anyone take our safe place from us. We have the power and the control. At this point we can choice to let her stop us from healing or we can vent our anger and show "her" that while we are very very mad at "her" we can still heal no matter what. I hope you stay.
James
Gus,
Only you can know in your heart what is best for you. I believe that this is a good place for me to be, that these are good people for me to befriend. I have been fooled, but I have been fooled and betrayed in the real world, too. If I react as I have always done, by boarding myself up inside the fortress in my head, who will I hurt like that? Not the betrayer. Who could I help like that? Not myself.
Lurk if you have to. Just take time off if you have to. I have done both of those things at times in the last year when I felt I needed them. I have seen others take time away, too, and come back. There are a lot of good people here, extremely brave people with kind hearts. If you really must be away, please remember that they are here, and will be here when/if you return. They have always been here for me.
Joe
Only you can know in your heart what is best for you. I believe that this is a good place for me to be, that these are good people for me to befriend. I have been fooled, but I have been fooled and betrayed in the real world, too. If I react as I have always done, by boarding myself up inside the fortress in my head, who will I hurt like that? Not the betrayer. Who could I help like that? Not myself.
Lurk if you have to. Just take time off if you have to. I have done both of those things at times in the last year when I felt I needed them. I have seen others take time away, too, and come back. There are a lot of good people here, extremely brave people with kind hearts. If you really must be away, please remember that they are here, and will be here when/if you return. They have always been here for me.
Joe
crisispoint
Registrant
Gus,
I'm still here (although maybe not for much longer, involuntarily speaking, if you've been reading what I've been up to!
), and I expect you to be the same when you feel safe to do so.
Stay with us, my brother. We're stronger with you than without you, and that bitch isn't worth losing genuine friends over.
Peace and love, no matter what happens.
Scot
I'm still here (although maybe not for much longer, involuntarily speaking, if you've been reading what I've been up to!
), and I expect you to be the same when you feel safe to do so.Stay with us, my brother. We're stronger with you than without you, and that bitch isn't worth losing genuine friends over.
Peace and love, no matter what happens.
Scot