husband needs time away to think - normal?

[passion]

Hi guys,
This question goes to any survivor that is married and has at one point or another asked his wife for a separation.
My husband of 11 years is a csa survivor (6 years old by a babysitter). He disclosed this info. to me about 4 years ago and we haven't spoken since nor have we had sex for about 5. I recently had an emotional outburst regarding having children, not directed at him. It was the result of a conversation with a friend wanting to know if we were going to have children. I never laid any blame on him at all but was just upset about the what our future might hold. he immediately shut down on me. He slept late, woke up and was out of the house either with friends, "running errands", or just driving around. he never talked with me about my emotional state. he literally avoided spending time with me or conversing with me for 12 days. he left for Korea on the 13th day for a trip, leaving a letter behind basically stating that he loves me but we are in different places in our lives right now and he needs time alone to learn about himself. he is speaking of a "few months or so apart". There has been no discussion at all. he comes back from Korea on Monday...I have no idea what to say, how to act, and if this is definitely related to his csa or not. He has NEVER shut down on me like this.
Have any of you guys experienced anything like this?

Passion

 

[ARW]

Questions (a little confused):

You stopped speaking four years ago, or just about the SA then? You haven't had sex for a year before he first mentioned it to you? Assuming you meant what I said in the first question, it sounds as tho if you both stopped talking about the SA while not having sex the entire time, then was he in therapy about it? Are you? Or together? My wife and I are hanging on by a thread, it's also been about four years since I first told her the severity of what happened to me. Sex hs been very rare, but it happens sometimes. Meanwhile we're both in rigorous therapy and talk about my SA a lot. I could answer your post with more clarity but I need you to answer the above questions as I also feel like I'm flying a little blind here.

Al