My husband was sexually abused by his older brother, other boys in his neighborhood and in scouts. He moved away when he graduated and had a sexual relationship with another young man his age, but he told me it was only sex, that they never kissed or actually slept together as bf & bf. There have been times that he has been “addicted“ to reading gay erotica and viewing gay porn. This then led him to “dating” sites. He swears to me he has not cheated on me. He refuses to deal with the trauma, stating he’s afraid to hurt me but this is hurting me more, the not knowing, the questioning. I love him and I’m going to start seeing a T myself to try and deal with my own issues, I’m a compulsive shopper, and my co-dependency. I just can’t deal with the anxiety anymore and he’s going through another period of shutting me out, using his “service work” in AA as a reason to not be home. I don’t know what to door how to get him to see a T.