how to share

how to share
Hello
I am wondering about sharing what happened to me a couple times that has negatively impacted me, especially feeling forced into some actions in sexual situations. I just wanna know how to safely unpack this to not hurt anyone or trigger anyone. Thanks for the help
 
Hello Ossolot, Good questions. Please add the word "Trigger" to the title of and/or beginning of a post your gut senses triggers you or others. Notice that when you start a new post the emojis are available, choose a red exclamation to give warning, or whatever is your mood. To access those emojis again, click "reply" rather than just posting in the box at the bottom. You'll open the full options by clicking "reply". Note you may UNCHECK the automatically checked boxes at the bottom left.

Those check boxes are 2 options. First to add to a favorites (or not) list, and second to add your chosen signature. I'll let my signature post this time so you can see what I mean. The more practice you gather posting, and reading, coping with the past and present struggles becomes somewhat shared. And that's the hope, the community of those who get you. And we do.
 
Thank you for the guidelines. This seems like such a perfect interface for sharing. I just read your story, and I honour your courage for discussing all this.

What really struck me is how we always find ways to blame ourselves for whatever reason and whatever causality lead up to the incidents. It's so sad how we find ways to blame ourselves for others decisions and the agency of others.

I don't feel as alone
 
To me, sharing is one of the great features of the MS site. Basically everyone here has struggled with/ or is struggling with the effects of unwanted sexual experiences. So I feel as little or as much as you would be comfortable sharing is certainly acceptable. As Ceremony suggested the use of a Trigger Warning is in order, to alert anyone who may feel they are not in an emotionally safe place, so they may consider whether they should be reading at the present time.

Keep in mind that the "Survivor Stories" section does not allow comments on anything written on that forum. Everywhere else expect followup comments.

It seems the more we write about our experiences the less power they have in our lives.

CJ
 
Hi Ossolot,

Ceremony said it perfectly.
I used to live in so many secrets it suffocated me. Sharing as often as possible has given me so much freedom and a better understanding of my feelings. It's like walking out of a prison, step by step. I hope you can walk towards peace.
 
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