How to explain?
Sick Puppy
Registrant
I have a little bit of a problem.
At some other forums I post at (they are just casual, joking-around forums; they have no specific focus or aim) some of the women like to hit on me as a joke. I am alright with this. The nature of the forums is joking around, and I have the same sort of attitude there. However, one or two of them have gotten more serious about it, to the point that it makes me VERY uncomfortable. I guess a normal guy would either be flattered or shrug it off, but it upsets me a lot, I guess because it ties into my abuse and reminds me of how my mother acted to me. One woman in particular seems to have a big crush on me, almost to the point of "stalking" me and making sexual comments in all my threads.
I talked to the admin of the forum (he is a friend of mine) about the problem, but he told me not to worry about it. He said that she was just lonely and flirtatious. I didn't want to anger him or inconvience him so I apologized for bothering him and didn't say any more, but I'm still really bothered by this woman's behavior. I know that she doesn't mean any harm, so I don't want to upset her or hurt her feelings by asking her to stop... but it scares me to some degree, and makes me feel triggered, and upset, and paranoid. People joke around sexually a lot on the forums, which is fine with me, but this is definitely more serious and less of a joke.
What do I do?
At some other forums I post at (they are just casual, joking-around forums; they have no specific focus or aim) some of the women like to hit on me as a joke. I am alright with this. The nature of the forums is joking around, and I have the same sort of attitude there. However, one or two of them have gotten more serious about it, to the point that it makes me VERY uncomfortable. I guess a normal guy would either be flattered or shrug it off, but it upsets me a lot, I guess because it ties into my abuse and reminds me of how my mother acted to me. One woman in particular seems to have a big crush on me, almost to the point of "stalking" me and making sexual comments in all my threads.
I talked to the admin of the forum (he is a friend of mine) about the problem, but he told me not to worry about it. He said that she was just lonely and flirtatious. I didn't want to anger him or inconvience him so I apologized for bothering him and didn't say any more, but I'm still really bothered by this woman's behavior. I know that she doesn't mean any harm, so I don't want to upset her or hurt her feelings by asking her to stop... but it scares me to some degree, and makes me feel triggered, and upset, and paranoid. People joke around sexually a lot on the forums, which is fine with me, but this is definitely more serious and less of a joke.
What do I do?
