how the spouse is affected

why do i need to hurt the one i love:my spouse. she is going through alot of shit with me unsure of my manhood and seeing yet another woman. i am confused about my sexuality yet i know im not gay.im out of the house and begging for a divorce that she wont give because she knows i need help. im tired of hurting her. im afraid to be happy again.and it think the best thing is for her to stay away and move on with her life, find someone else. she deserves better.

[ 06-04-2001: Message edited by: silentnomore ]

[ 06-04-2001: Message edited by: silentnomore ]

 

I know exactly how you feel. I'm in an apartment by myself right now, but I'm married. I left my wife because of a lot of reasons -- I told her that she could find someone better.

Life is hard, very hard. There is no easy road to recovery. I put my wife and family through a lot because of my issues, and I blamed it on them.

I have a lot of making up to do with them to make it right...

Hang in there and face the demons. You can do it! I know it's hard, but life was not meant to be like this. Someone took away your sunshine, and you are going to have to get it back. You can do it!

I'm working to put everything back the way it was meant to be. I'm going to slay this dragon. Want to join me?

 

Everything you are saying rings true with me, too, as I'm sure it will with others. My wife is being really supportive, I try to explain what happened to me as a child, how confused I was, how the abuser made me think that I was special etc. At times, I did wonder about my sexuality; it was my first experience, and it's bound to have had an impact.

It sounds to me that your wife really cares for you, and is willing to help. Hang in there.