How many people stay quiet because..

How many people stay quiet because..
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daveHello

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they don't want their abuser to get in trouble with the law? For me this is pretty much the case i didn't talk to anyone while my Dad was alive.
 
Yes, I didn't want to get my best friend's father in trouble because I thought he was so kind to me, compared to my abusive (everything other than sexual) stepfather at home.
 
It was a combination of things. I didn't really realize how wrong it was. I didn't want to get people in trouble. But also, a big part of my experience was with clients (I was trafficked.) So a huge part of the job was being discrete. That's why it was successful. Even today I don't "rat out" clients even though there for sure would be blow back on their careers and lives. I feel like I still need to hold up my end of the deal.
 
I not only thought my brother would go to jail but I was convinced I would also. When he was sent away when I was 13 this thought was reinforced 1000%. When I was attacked/raped at camp and keg party I felt I was as at fault just because it happened. No one could ever know I Would be a fag, gay, cocksocker, butt bandit,(these were the names my brother was called and I was taunted with) and of course in the 80’s I thought I would just have aids and any of that would put you in jail. This is one of those questions that I could go on forever the number of reasons I never said anything. Peace and shake it off mojo’s. Billy
 
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Did not want to destroy the family, be taking away or family taking away. This was my biggest fear and i am sure why i kept quiet.
 
He told me he would go to jail the rest of his life. I didn't want to lose the only adult that treated me like a son and paid attention to me (parents sucked). Had to suffer for it though. Later shame, fear, guilt, overwhelm, hurt, broken, etc. Fucked up emotions and afraid to allow anyone get close or see what goes on inside me. If they see how fucked up I am inside they will reject me. Also, I learned that getting too close to anyone is unsafe. So opening up and talking is difficult to say the least. Even on here.
 
I stayed quiet because it was my fault it happened. That's what I believed all my life until recently when I finally worked with a therapist.
 
tom24 said:
I stayed quiet because it was my fault it happened. That's what I believed all my life until recently when I finally worked with a therapist.
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Tom, I'm glad you finally learned the truth but sad it took so long for you to hear it from someone. It can be hard to do, but I hope you accept this truth into every fiber of your being. Glad to hear you have someone who is able to tell you the truth. Steve
 
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