How Many Lives?

How Many Lives?
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Lady Rock

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How Many Lives? - How Many Lies?


I write this on behalf of someone I love and all others whose lives were shattered and had their childhood innocence stolen by your evil life as a pedophile.

Your pathetic, lifeless bones do not deserve to rest in this hallowed cemetery. Your life was a disgusting, evil, perverted lie. You held a leadership position at this church, which supported a Boy Scout Troop. You used this as the platform from which you selected your innocent victims. Through your perverse acts, you desecrated your esteemed position at the church, and the leadership post you held in the scouting program.

God Bless, protect and nurture the boys whose lives you shattered. Your innocent victims are now men. These men now cope with the trauma caused by your worthless, destructive, repulsive life as a pedophile. How Many Lives?

God bless, protect and nurture the families of your victims. They are helping to bring about healing and soften the jagged, raw edges of hurt and pain inflicted by you. How Many Lives?

God bless your wife and children. They were victims too.

How Many Lives suffered because of your life as a pedophile?

Did you even have a soul?
 
LR

What a powerful piece of writing. You are an inspiration to me. I have wanted to write a letter to the man, and his family, who abused my loved one but dare not... it feels to close to the hurt.

Youre love and strength shine though. Youre loved one is blessed to have you in his corner.

Love

Tracy
 
Lady Rock,

Wow. This is a beautiful piece. Your anger is apparent, but even more apparent is the love and sadness you feel. Stay strong and be well.

I echo Tracy's words: Your loved one is lucky to have you in their corner!

ROCK ON........Trish
 
LR,

Agree with the power behind the writing and it's a good thing to see your love and strength for your loved one.

I doubt, though, that your words would have any meaning at all to the perp if he were to read it and that is just so sad. Just my opinion but I don't think these guys believe they are causing any harm by their selfish actions. If they do consider the impact of what they do to the innocent it is far outweighed and overwhelmed by their needs for control and gratification.

Hope the writing of the letter helped you get rid of some of the hurt you feel because of that pus bag of a man.

Keep strong and keep safe!

Zipser
 
Hi Lady Rock :)

Like Zipser, I think it is so sad, the ones who need to hear it can't hear it. Our need to say it is so important but oddly really separate from part of the reality of the abuse.

There is something about the anger of a friend, partner, family member, that can be very intense and almost supernatural to the survivor. As one survivor pointed out to me, that's because we can feel the anger without ambivalance, without the real memories, without the rest of the emotions that accompanied the grooming and abuse. After all, if he had never felt anything positive towards his abuser, it would not have been possible for the abuser to abuse him.

I think at times our "intense" anger can help the survivor to get in touch with his own anger and let go of the ambivalence and the manipulation that came with the abuse, but at other times our anger can come across as insensitive to the complicated feelings of the abused boy.

I'm not saying that we friends and family don't have the right to our anger-- it is a reality for us and we need a place to understand it and process it-- and it is justified. But if I could really wipe a certain person from the face of the planet, would it help my partner be healed? I don't know anymore. In some ways I think the damage is done in him and the solution will need to come from within him too.
(hey wrangler, you around these days?)

SAR
 
Hi all.........thanks for the input! I first showed it to the primary person for whom I wrote, and he encouraged me to post here in the F&F forum. It was an unbelieveable release to put this in words, which came from deep in my heart. I have read it again and again, and each time I feel the release. I realize that nothing we say could possibly change the warped mind of the perpetrator, another tragic factor in the whole situation. As I wrote, I felt sadness, frustration and anger being washed over by strength, courage and compassion. Thank you all, for being there for those who need you. With Love, LR
 
LR,

That's what makes this site so special. Hope you keep posting.

Zipser
 
Lady Rock,

Earlier this week I posted a letter to the pedophile who wound both me and someone I love. I just want you to know that your love and caring attitude brings strength to wounded souls everywhere. I know that I missed this thread back when it was new but just had to reply now and tell you thanks. Without friends and family, where would we be?

Love ya

Darrel
 
LR,

that is a powerful letter, it made me think just how many boys are hurt the same way.

NO! They dont have a soul,

ste
 
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