How many abused by mother and what happened?
Chairman201
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I was hoping to start a thread on this within the board, so maybe we can help each other out from time to time, or just to vent or talk.
Thanks,
Chairman201
Thanks,
Chairman201
How many abused by mother and what happened?
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Chairman201
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Well, I guess more specifically what exactly happened, what we were like afterwards, and what we are like now that we're doing something.
reality2k4
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Hmmm. No answer this guy,
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POSSIBLE TRIGGER....I,to was sexually and mentally abused by my mother and it ripped me apart having found this out(2000) and it had shaken me to the bone.My brother and i growing up(or lack thereof) were always getting in to fights and whether or not who started this i was ALWAYS to blame and she'd force me ,as puinshment, to get into bed with her from age 9 until i was 17 before it finally stopped.I bounced around the foster care system and virtually afraid all the time.As i had mentioned being focred to do things that only now are far beyond my imagination.I would evetually, as time went on, be forced again but this time, unfortunatey i had intercourse and the little boy in me as i think back on it today had to be so terrified and confused that he had no other option to stop this and did as he was told otherwise she'd go nuts and start to slap and spit at me as though i was scum.So yes having known this happened i hated her and as a result i am constantly confused when it comes to intimacy and how to regulate my feelings between being intimate and feeling aroused and i get all jammed up emotionally so as a result i suffer the consequences in all aspects of my life from then right up to this point in my life.Hopefully i was able to give my insight and the circumstances of how my life was all those years ago...Coopstah
Chairman201
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Well, what I'm going to start off regarding my story (I did post a initial summary of my story earlier in October '06), is that recently I found this great book titled 'Incest', and it breaks down all the different kinds - one for each chapter. Mother/son, father/daughter, etc., with stats on how the victims usually fare afterwards.
Next, towards the back it has a list (one big page) in two sections, listing ALL possible acts to be committed. Section 1 is called "Covert" Incest acts and Section 2 is called "Overt" Incest acts. I'm trying to relocate this book. I think it would be a good thing to have its list posted as a "Sticky" or "Permanent" webposting (at the top of the Webpage) for everyone's to view. Because there sure seems alot of confusion sometimes. For example, my mother committed 10 "Covert" acts but only one "Overt" act.
So what? What does this have to do with recovery/surviving and what's my benefit?
Well, first off, I'm not sure it would help that much for those victims who suffered, say, alot of "Overt" acts - 'cause its damned obvious what happened. However, in my case, and maybe with others, all the "Covert" and maybe even some "Overt" stuff was repressed (put deep into the subconcious to be buried - causing lots of anger and acting out and other problems); it took me several years of psychotherapy to realize my Obsessive Compulsive Disorder and Major Clinical Depression is probably linked directly to experiencing Incest.
And maybe it will help the supportive, innocent friends and family of victims too.
I will be trying to locate it as soon as possible and type up the list, if its OK with the moderator's of the forum and webmaster.
Oh and just to reiterate, maybe this thread can be the start of a mini-forum on those who suffered from mother/son Incest.
Sincerely,
Chairman201
Next, towards the back it has a list (one big page) in two sections, listing ALL possible acts to be committed. Section 1 is called "Covert" Incest acts and Section 2 is called "Overt" Incest acts. I'm trying to relocate this book. I think it would be a good thing to have its list posted as a "Sticky" or "Permanent" webposting (at the top of the Webpage) for everyone's to view. Because there sure seems alot of confusion sometimes. For example, my mother committed 10 "Covert" acts but only one "Overt" act.
So what? What does this have to do with recovery/surviving and what's my benefit?
Well, first off, I'm not sure it would help that much for those victims who suffered, say, alot of "Overt" acts - 'cause its damned obvious what happened. However, in my case, and maybe with others, all the "Covert" and maybe even some "Overt" stuff was repressed (put deep into the subconcious to be buried - causing lots of anger and acting out and other problems); it took me several years of psychotherapy to realize my Obsessive Compulsive Disorder and Major Clinical Depression is probably linked directly to experiencing Incest.
And maybe it will help the supportive, innocent friends and family of victims too.
I will be trying to locate it as soon as possible and type up the list, if its OK with the moderator's of the forum and webmaster.
Oh and just to reiterate, maybe this thread can be the start of a mini-forum on those who suffered from mother/son Incest.
Sincerely,
Chairman201
My mother was part of my sexual abuse. To what extent, still I am not sure, as I hold memories in a different manner. The details of the abuse, those I know, I have shared here in the past. For reasons of my own, right now, I am not wishing to get into them again.
I do not know that it is necessary to have a subforum for those abused by their mothers. It just seems as a means to divide us more, rather then to unite us and strengthen us. Just is my opinon though.
Leosha
I do not know that it is necessary to have a subforum for those abused by their mothers. It just seems as a means to divide us more, rather then to unite us and strengthen us. Just is my opinon though.
Leosha