How long has this forum been around ?

Tom S.

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Why now ?
I've been 12 years on the internet being cursed, debased, and called every thing from mentally ill to misogynist for my male perspective of sexual assault and molestation from a female social worker.

Who wanted to listen when I was shut out of the local [edited] operated rape crisis center for questioning the unlicensed PhD senior counselor for telling me, " You fit the profile of a rapist " after I was instructed by a [edited] social worker to go there for specialized 'non biased' professional counseling services ??

Who gives a particular damn I gave up my professional license as an RN and not worked since ???

????

I feel betrayed and even more pissed !!!!!

Tom S. in Tn.
 
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mogigo

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Why now Tom?

Same reason MaleSurvivor was a dream 20 years ago.

Because no one was ready to talk about it.

Not fair, not right, and definately not good. But here it is and I'm still here for it. Thank flippen god I got to see it.

Stay strong
Mike
 

Tom S.

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Mike;
Will it be worth it ?

The disgusting degradation and abuse from wounded [edited] over the past 12 years both in specialized rape and sexual assault centers, private counseling, as well as all over the internet including [edited], simply has not been worth it.

I preached the 'Genderless-ness' aspect of rape from the beginning, and I still get up every morning and curse the [edited] social worker who declared I was a victim of sexual assault.

Life was far less stressful and complex predisclosure living without having to defend yourself everyday.

What's in this? There has to be a profit motive somewhere, just like marketing rape and sexual abuse through crisis centers and world class therapy.

Again Mike.....Why now ?

Tom S. in Tn.
 
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garr

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I don't understand. Are you asking why the "Survivors of Female Abuse" forum is here now? Are you suggesting that since it wasn't here in the past that it never should be? That's what I'm sensing, although I could be very wrong.
 
i thought tom was saying basically 'it's about time it is here!' and wondering what took it so long, why it was not there when he needed it the most. but that's just me, sometimes i just make up satisfying answers in my own head when there seems to be no other recourse.

pesky brain......

all the best,

ron
 

Tom S.

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Thanx Ron.

After 36 years of living privately as a neurotic female perpetrated male rape victim, with the past 12 of it publicly disgraced, degraded, and cursed with every aspect of my life, both public and personal, combed through and investigated like maggots through a dead horse....... well, I suppose I might appear a tad skeptical of a site dedicated to female sexual assault and molestation.

Or, perhaps the past 12 years of confinement at home after giving up my license and profession as an RN since a jack ass social worker sent me to the [edited] run rape crisis center for 'specialized and effective' treatment related to sexual trauma,..... just might possibly have created a trace of cynicism on my part.

I believe Ron's got it exactly right; pesky brain....... (thank you Ron)

You know, I first came to this MS site back in 98' or 99', and every time I brought up the issue of female perpetration I was made to look handicapped or mentally ill or something.
So I left looking for support, and every time I mentioned I was a male victim, or stated how rape and sexual molestation are 'GENDERLESS' crimes, all I got was debasement and cursings. The [edited] crowd who predominate this damned side of the mental health industry finally coined a new therapeutic sounding term just to call men like me who they are able to push to anger. They like to call us misogynist. Real professional sounding don't you think ? I was first called this in emailings last summer, and most recently I've seen it used in the news stories about male mass murderers.

Again, thanks Ron. You were right on time, since standing alone as a male rape victim with nothing but antagonist and absolutely no from support here in the bible belt home of the SBC, might have actually caused my ability to effectively communicate to deteriorate through the years.

Glass ceilings, porn in advertising, and manipulation with no application of the law, is creating an ever strongly anti-male society by the day.

Sorry guys, this is the best I can do, and I'd still like to know................ why now ?
Why couldn't you people have put this here when you started MS ?

Tom S. in Tn.

addendum; I'm now wondering if you know yourselves.

Tom S.
 
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Trucker51

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I can't right off remember who the original supporters of this particular forum were or the exact date of its creation, though it happened during my time here, perhaps last Fall or Winter to the best of my recollection. There certainly is such a thing as guys struggling with victimization at the hand of female abusers, not only from sexual abuse, but also physical and emotional abuse, drug and alcohol abuse, and various kinds of neglect too.

There were several other victims of female abusers when the suggestion was made to initiate this forum. Several other forums are fairly recent creations too. As I recall when I was seeing Mic Hunter in 1997-98, he talked at that time about helping to set-up an online support organization which very well may have been this one. And when I was in my first stint in therapy in 1986-87, a widely-used public internet was still a future concept. Back then you went straight from an individual therapist to an in-person support group, which was a stretch for many guys back then, and that basically was all the help that there was available.

I believe that our webmaster might tell you that our new hardware or software has enabled the addition of much more content including new forums. But regardless of the original reasoning behind the creation of this forum, it is here now, you will be believed here now, and you will find support from other guys struggling with the same issue here too.

Please accept our apology for the delay,

Mark
 

Tom S.

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I'm angry because it's far too late for me. Too much damage for far too long with absolutely not one (1) advocate anywhere along the way.

Too much time having to face the world down using my best judgment and ability alone, and I continue to pray daily for a complete and total collapse of the economy to level the playing field of the bigoted female biased androgynous system.

Sorry, but I just don't feel the need to make a charitable contribution at this time.

Tom S. in Tn.
 

Tom S.

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Correction;

Change 'androgynous' above to read ' misandrist '.
(strange, plenty of definitions for women haters, but not even a spell check for this one)

Middle paragraph should read;

" Too much time having to face the world down using my best judgment and ability alone, and I continue to pray daily for a complete and total collapse of the economy to level the playing field of the bigoted female biased misandrist system. "


Too many years being beaten down by these people; Tom S. in Tn.
 

Niels

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Tom - I was the one who took the initive to get this sub-forum going.

Survivors of female abuse

Probably one of the few things I have done right. It has been here for about a year now. But like you point out should have been here always. Seems to me like most are not willing to believe women can be sexually abusive to boys and men, but of course we know differently and dare to speak about it today.

Also remember that it is never too late to work on recovery from abuse. If we dont work on it - it will work on us. It does not make the pain lesser and we could have been spared a lot of pains and frustrations. But we are here now. We can change now and our future. The past we have live with. Glad you found us.
 
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Cement

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I wrote my masters thesis on the impossibility for society to recognize female-on-male sexual abuse. I would be happy to offer it to Tom or anyone else to read.
 

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Tom S. said:
I'm angry because it's far too late for me. Too much damage for far too long with absolutely not one (1) advocate anywhere along the way.

Tom S. in Tn.
I hear ya. Often times I feel the exact same way. And I also can understand why your upset that there weren't any sites around when you needed one the most. Sure does suck that we get to live life with so much pain and suffering and nobody seems to give a sh!t.

My only advice, even if I am not qualified to give any, is to maybe just give these people here at MS a shot. They seem pretty cool. They even let me go on stupid rants and instead of making fun of me, they *gasp* try to support me. Yeah, it is a concept I'm not used to, either.

Also, Hello :)
 
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