How do you break through barriers???

How do you break through barriers???
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jalcnlmcl2003

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I've been having real ups and downs lately. Sometimes I feel like I need a neckbrace just to get through the day. Some days, the downs are so far down, it doesn't seem worth it to push through.

How do you guys find the strength to get through the REALLY bad days?

I have gotten to a point that I know the day is starting out bad, just by the amount of "pressure" I feel in my skull when I wake up. Does anyone else have that feeling? It's similar to a hangover, or REALLY bad sinus pressure, only the pressure is ON my head. Does that make sense?? It's almost like there is a giant hand pressing down on my head. At first I thought it was meds, but it comes and goes with my mood swings.
 
jalcnlmcl2003


I am sorry I can't relate because I've not gone the meds route. But I do know the sensation you are talking about. I have had hangovers from drugs alcohol, nicotine and even caffeine, and I know that none of them feel good.

It's awful feeling that feeling on arising, because it is then so hard to move upward from being so lowdown.

I sure don't know what to say except I hope that some of the other guys shed some of their wisdom on this subject.

I hurt when I know one of my partners in survival are hurting. I hope you get some consolation soon my friend.

Ron
 
Hi jalcnlmcl2003,


although I'm not sure its exactly the same, "feeling" when a bad day is comming up is something I know. it starts out as a pain in the neck and progresses to migraine, backpain, dizzyness, feeling too sick to even stand up to the point my entire body hurts. "skull pressure" is part of it somedays. It usually happens out of the blue. I don't have a solution to it though.

take care,

SB
 
Hello jalcnlmcl2003,

Usually, a good rule of thumb is to rule out a physical, or medical reason for something, before jumping to it being considered a mental or emotional thing. It is not clear to me if you have done that yet.

If you have, then all I can say is that I do not experience what you are experiencing. For me, I know I have had a really bad night and will be in a bad mood most of the day if my jaws ache because I have been grinding my teeth all night. I do have a night gaurd to use. But if I am tense all night, the jaws still ache. And the bad night for me is certainly from severe anxiety.

If I am just having a really bad day from my SA I go someplace where I can see people with children, who are having fun. Or I listen to some music that helps me. And I do have a safe place I can go to if it is not too cold. It is along Lake Michigan.

I wish you the best in getting to a point where you do not feel that crushing pain on top of your head.

Bob
 
Talk to your doctor about your headaches and other ailments. It may be a physical ailment, that affects your mood, it may be that your medication needs to be adjusted, stress amd anxiety, or something else. All I know is that I cannot determine this for you, your doctor is the one that has the avenues to determine the source and help correct it. Make an appointment and discuss this you your doctor.

I hope that you begin to feel better soon,

Bill
 
Whyme very well put. Exceptional really. It is something we should all have. A security blanket sort of.

I find that the bad days involve a lot of the poor me's and then the downward spiral starts. Nice to have a plan and better if you have more than one.

The poor me's, I think, is the single most dangerous side journey I can take in my hike towards inner peace and living life.
 
My cell phone is my "pick me up"

Just hearing someones voice can be enough, especially my wifes.
Even the other day when I just called for a chat and some TLC and she was so angry with someone at work.
Did it make me more sad ?
Not when she said - "If the f****g crab faced old bag DARES to show her face in my office today I'll f*****g kill her !"
What else could I do but collapse with laughing ?

How could I feel down after that ? we were both roaring with laughter over the phone.
I felt better, and her anger was softened.

A good result all around, we have to share our crap to shift it.

Dave
 
I think I know what you mean.

First off it very well could be something medical, so you should have that ruled out before you decide that it is emotional or stress related.

Maybe it is the feeling that there are so many things to do. Feelings to resolve things to explain or find explanations for. And the mounting pile of unresolved everyday things that accumulate when we don't have the skills or energy to cope.

Your mind sort of spins and whirs I understand how it could feel like pressure. There is a lot to deal with and sometimes you have no clue where to begin, let alone the energy to deal with it.

Does that sound familiar?

I've felt that way. Having the support systems like friends and loved ones does help. It can be calming just to hear a voice or hear someone else's problems.

The second thing to do is just start on something. Just get some progress on one of the problems and look at your progress objectively from the point of where you started not where you want to get to. I think thats important you want to stress to yourself what you got accomplished and not so much how far there is left to go.

When you see that then you may start to see that getting things done may actually give you energy instead of drain it. Kind of ironic but true.

The big stuff like dealing with SA and all the emotional and behavioural fallout will take much more time. It will get better though. You should look at that too in terms of what progress you've made not how far you are from your goal. That little shift of perspective can do a world of good at times. After all it really is the journey that matters not the destination.

And remember this too shall pass. It seems to me that the only constant in the world is change. Everything changes and you too will see change for the better.

I sincerely wish you much better days to come my brother.

Let it out.

Aaron
 
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