How do we trust again?
Tryingtolive
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Is it even possible ?
At times I want to be open.
But everything in my mind tells me keep it to myself.
At times I want to be open.
But everything in my mind tells me keep it to myself.
How do we trust again?
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Tryingtolive I know it is hard. I think for me it was easier because of my wife. She never judges anyone and knows we are all different. She never pushed me. If I did not have her I probably would not have learned to trust. I learned to make fun of people and leave them from my family. It was a screwed up place and as a child I thought Mama and her family were great. Only in my 50's do I realize they were the problem.
I think one day you will find someone to help you trust. Doing it on your own has to be tough.
The mind confuses us. We are programmed. I look at my childhood and I was programmed and I lost a Dad. Do not loose yourself. Talk and get it out. Do not let more time pass because you are good and I find your words so helpful. You make me think.
Paul
I think one day you will find someone to help you trust. Doing it on your own has to be tough.
The mind confuses us. We are programmed. I look at my childhood and I was programmed and I lost a Dad. Do not loose yourself. Talk and get it out. Do not let more time pass because you are good and I find your words so helpful. You make me think.
Paul
((((Tryingtolive))))
Trust in others...not always easy.
Do you mean in love? Emotionally? Do you mean physically? "Or keep it to myself," meaning revealing too much about yourself to others? Your story?
I'm going to go with all of the above. To play it safe. And because honestly, it's the same answer for all.
I think it depends on whether or not you find the right person to trust. It's always scary, because you never know whether or not that person you open up to will be trustworthy or not...right, that's the fear....my personal take on this....I'm not perfect and I make a lot of dumb decisions, but I think I'm learning that the person or persons you DO decide to open up to should be well considered before you take the plunge. Guard yourself and don't trust blindly. On the flip side, you don't want to be SO guarded that you close off any and all connections to other people...sometimes we have to take that leap of faith. Admittedly, it's not always turned out well for me - many of us - I've been burned more times than I can count, and I struggle with thoughts of giving up sometimes - to keep and maintain a bitter-less attitude towards people. People can be horrible. Selfish. Judgmental. Careless.
But when you find the right one/ones - they can be AMAZING additions to your life. They can be supportive, loving, and understanding. The right person will stand at your side instead of two arm lengths away. They'll fight for you, accept you, and love you unconditionally. They'll feel like an extension of your heart in many ways...and that's incredibly rewarding.
Finding the right person to trust is worth the many disappointing trials of the ones that let you down.
Hang in there
Trust in others...not always easy.
Do you mean in love? Emotionally? Do you mean physically? "Or keep it to myself," meaning revealing too much about yourself to others? Your story?
I'm going to go with all of the above. To play it safe. And because honestly, it's the same answer for all.
I think it depends on whether or not you find the right person to trust. It's always scary, because you never know whether or not that person you open up to will be trustworthy or not...right, that's the fear....my personal take on this....I'm not perfect and I make a lot of dumb decisions, but I think I'm learning that the person or persons you DO decide to open up to should be well considered before you take the plunge. Guard yourself and don't trust blindly. On the flip side, you don't want to be SO guarded that you close off any and all connections to other people...sometimes we have to take that leap of faith. Admittedly, it's not always turned out well for me - many of us - I've been burned more times than I can count, and I struggle with thoughts of giving up sometimes - to keep and maintain a bitter-less attitude towards people. People can be horrible. Selfish. Judgmental. Careless.
But when you find the right one/ones - they can be AMAZING additions to your life. They can be supportive, loving, and understanding. The right person will stand at your side instead of two arm lengths away. They'll fight for you, accept you, and love you unconditionally. They'll feel like an extension of your heart in many ways...and that's incredibly rewarding.
Finding the right person to trust is worth the many disappointing trials of the ones that let you down.
Hang in there
