How and What??
How and what do i say to my son?? i am not sure he was sexually abused. I asked him if anyone had touched him when we were watching a tv show about 5 years ago, he said no. I think back to his high school years, and he became very depressed, walking with his head down and dragging his feet, it was like the life had gone out of him. I thought it was just high school. when he was growing up his grandmother on both sides belittled him and compared him to other grandchildren. At this point he will admit he has no emotions, he has his wall up. His dad was dead even before he knew what a dad was, and I have had medical problems his whole life. He doesn't know what its like to have a physically healthy mom or a dad. he has had to take on the responsibity of an adult so he really didn't have a childhood. even tho he seems to have adapted well, there is a reason he has shut off his emotions, I just don't know wether its because of sexual abuse or his grandmothers verbal abuse or my own lack of awareness. I was going to buy the book off e-bay my mike Lew victims no longer, and my son saw it, instead of confronting me and asking why are you gonna buy that?, he left the place where we were at on the computer, came home, stayed in his room awhile, came out and in passing said, you know mom you should be a therptist,(which he knows I am interested in) was this a strange reaction?? or am I seeing something thats not there?? and If it was a strange reaction, how and what do I say to him to get the truth out so I can help him or get him the help that he needs. I sooo don't want him to go through his life in denial or with his wall up. Any thoughts/feedback are very helpful.