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Ivo

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I had very bad feelings these past couple of days even I tried really hard to feel better and more optimistic.
When mine sister asked me what is wrong I told her that I do not see anything bright in mine future; actually I feel that I am totally failure as a human being and that is the reason why I am very unhappy.

Big trouble for me is that I am not in therapy of any kind.

I did search for professional help and I knew that actual situation is far from bright. The uncountable cost of war is drain of brains in mine country. The best professors, doctors, researchers, writers and overall intellectuals are today living all over the world but not here anymore.

After a lot of efforts I found that there is only one professional expert trained to treat CSA survivors in mine region that has more than 2 million inhabitants :-(.

I got the phone number of the needed office from one person from the Internet (long story) but I was very unsure would I be strong enough to make a call.

Today I finally called and made appointment after the New Year. Good thing is that I would be able to go on treatments on Saturday and mine working activities would not be affected (that is something that I could not afford).

I just hope that this would work for me.

Ivo
 
There is a saying in this part of the US. When things get so bad that you dont think that you can handle them we say, At least you dont live in Bosnia.

It is not a comforting statement, just a recognition that things could be worse. Today, while it brings little ease for your problems, I remind you, At least you do not live in Sir Lanka.

Im not being insensitive. This is the truth. If there are worse things that could be your fate, then there are better things that might be your fate. For all of the trouble it was for you to find help, you found it. You came here to MS and you got a doctors appointment.

Your future (barring disaster) is in the hands of a man who knows how to find help. Yourself. Id trust him if I were you. He has made it this far. He can make it farther.

Aden
 
Wow! I can't imagine living in such a place. You know I try not to take where I live for granted, and you have really shown me how lucky I am.

I am very proud of you that you went so far out of your way to find help when many of us would have thought somethng like, "Why bother, I'm not worth it anyway." Good for you Ivo!

And remember, you can't be a complete failure because you would have to fail at everything you do, and if you did that, you would be a success at being a complete failure, thus you wouldn't be a complete failure any more. :rolleyes:
 
Ivo, hey I know you go through more than a lot of us due to what has happened in Bosnia, it is like a double blow.

I hope the future looks a bit brighter, you made the call and the appointments fit in times when you are not at work.

you will get there my friend, you still have us as well, so you are never alone,

ste
 
Ivo,

I can relate to how difficult it can be in some countries to find help for this. I am fortunate that I did not begin to deal with it until after I had already been in the U.S. for some years.

I agree with Aden. You have been strong to come this far, and you are strong enough to come farther. Because it is like a mountain. You have already reached or are near the top. Once you get beyond that, the work will be easier, and momentum can help you through.

I wish you luck my friend.

leosha
 
Ivo,

Allow me to commend you on your efforts to find a therapist! You have definitely done the hard part, I think, and that is making the first appointment.

When I read how difficult it was for you to find a therapist, and then to finally commit to seeing one, I felt ashamed for not seeking out one for myself. I live in the USA, where therapists are a dime a dozen. Some may not be so good, but there are plenty. I realize that if a guy in your situation can go through all that work and overcome all those obstacles to find a therapist, then surely I can pickup a damn telephone book and find one right here.

Thanks for motivating me, Ivo, and above everything else, I hope this helps YOU deal with the issues YOU are dealing with. You are a brave soul. I am awed by your determination. I don't know if you are a religious man, but I'm praying for you anyway.
 
Ivo - I am so pleased that you have taken this positive step & I sincerely hope that everything goes well for you.

Best wishes ..Rik
 
Dear Ivo,

It is so obvious to me that you are far from a failure!

You are willing and that is a tremendous quality!

It is essential to anyone trying to accomplish any task to be willing to try, to grow, to take chances and to try again when things don't work out.

So many people have all the advantages that you and others in your country lack. They have health insurance, plenty of therapists, families who are will support them---all sorts of advantages.

But if they are not willing to get well, then all their advantages count for nothing.

Willingness is essential, and you have it in quantity.

Please let me wish you much continued success on your path to recovery. I am so glad that you are here and a part of us. You inspire me.

Happy New Year and much peace and happiness to you, Ivo.

Warm regards,
 
Ivo - I think this is a very positive step in your healing, and am very proud of you for taking this monumental step. I remember when I started therapy, it was one of the absolutely hardest things I have ever done, taking that first step. Good for you!
 
What great news to begin the new year with. A new brother begining his HEALING jourany.

It is very good if you can see your T on Saturday because it could be bad to let this interfear with your work at FRIST. The frist few months can be very much a rollercoster and all kinds of feeling will come out. I worked afternoons and had my T session in the am on MONDAYS but the 3 hour drive to work would be one hell of a crying trip. I would get to work at 2am and could hardly work.

My boss confrounted me and I told her about my abuse. It became super hard to work there once everone know about me being rape by a priest . The whole company was very Catolice and we did printing for ST Mary Press.

Get Therapy No matter what it is wroth everything. Tom
 
Ivo,

As I read your description of what you have gone through to find a therapist, and the guys acknowledgement of that endeavor, I'm reminded of that song, maybe you've heard of it, "New York, New York?" And what is the line, "IF YOU CAN MAKE IT THERE, YOU CAN MAKE IT ANYWHERE, NEW YORK, NEW YORK."
I think that you've added the Bonian verse, with incredible determination.
Hats off to you, Ivo,
YOU'LL MAKE IT ANYWHERE!!!

Thank you for being the example and kick in the pants that some of us need.

David

edited for a spelling error
 
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