holidays----ugh

holidays----ugh
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sabata

well here we go again holidays..i dont understand it..i can be feeling not to bad..then bang hoildays..i feel crappy depressed..i dont want to be around people..everything is all turned upside down...i rely on routine..holidays screwes up everything..i hate all of the family stuff on tv..and xmas stuff..cant stand being around all of those happy people....just get it over with..i would rather hibernate for nov and dec....then every one at work cant understand why you dont want to be involved in all of thier holiday stuff...well hopefully i wont get fired this year...my anger comes out...dont know why...just want to be left alone....steve
 
Sabata,

I agree. For years! But you know what? When you find people who are not blood-relatives, but are in need of a healthy family too - during the holidays - getting together with them can be the best holiday you'll ever have.

I think it was the author Charles Dickens who wrote (and was no stranger to family horrors during the British Victorian era - and was famous for that fact), in his book "Nicholas Nickleby":

...we cried our tears, but then we did the vital thing (moving forward) knowing that family NEED NOT be considered ONLY those of whom we SHARED blood - but family was also for those whom we would GIVE our blood.

And I would dare to suggest that reading Charles Dickens can be uplifting, 'cause they're heartbreakers for sure, but sometimes shared grief and realizing that sometimes in God's eyes, there is nothing more beautiful than a broken heart - which carries on.

(Hoping that wasn't too "mushy".)

Sincerely,

Chairman201
 
Holidays are hard for me as well . I do not like being around crouds and you have the preasure that you should act a certain way .
I live in OK. and most of my family lives in CA. it hard for me because of not getting to be with the people that I love
 
Yeah, me too. I avoid stores and malls and anything else that has to do with the season. Extended family asks too many personal questions and things of that sort. Hibernating is a good thought :)

Brad
 
i am in texas dad in fl brother in delaware but dont want to be around them thanks michael and chariman201 for replays
 
Steve I made a cool friend and his kids love me and I don't want to be around my own family for now, so I'm going to spend Christmas with him and his kids.

I'm tired of pretending that I'm not fucking pissed off at both my parents for their shortcomings. I'm just staying away from them for a while.

What about you Steve, do you have any good friends that you might be welcome to come over for Christmas day?
 
We pick our friends, not our kin.
Sometimes kinfolk can be fun. When my mother was alive, we always had a certain set of cousins who came to dine. No one was subtle, especially about politics,when the wine began to flow.
God help the poor unsuspecting conservative who always seemed to leave in a daze or called the FBI.

We do have choices where we go. Why be miserable and build up more resentments?

Hmmm. I think the baddies are trying to sully my pond water. Time to call my cousin Bubba Bullfrog.

froggy12
 
Something perhaps we can do to take control of our feelings of holidays is to create our own traditions with them. Just because they are often thought to be 'family' times and such does not mean we can not create our own reality at holiday time. Perhaps holiday can be when we go on vacation for ourselves. Or go and see four or five movies we've heard about and want to see. Or read some books. Or do some volunteer work. Something to make the holiday something that WE enjoy. Just a thought.

Leosha
 
well i decided to take 2 weeks off work...dec 16 to jan 2 2007...dont have to worry about...work issues at this time...going to do what ever.....change my routines....travel....whatever comes up....and i am looking foreward to this time off...and trying not to feel guilty......steve
 
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