Hobbies, anyone?

Hobbies, anyone?
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EGL

Registrant
I'm curious what others who have been through this do for hobbies in their lives. As many of you know, I'm 43 and only recently (a few weeks ago) finally told someone (my wife) about the sexual abuse I went through at 12.

My main hobby for the last 5 or 6 years has been model railroading. I have a large (29' x 11') layout in my basement of the Missouri Pacific Railroad circa 1962 (I was b. in 1961). I've always viewed this as a means to create my own world where I can control what happens in it, who the people are on the streets of the town, etc. I know there's probably a LOT of psychological aspects of that, but it helps me deal with being in control of my life, even if it is this small slice of a world in my basement.

Any others?
 
I really enjoy seeing model railroad set-ups. I think it is because I like miniature stuff.

I used to design theatre sets. My favorite part of it was building the model. To a large extent, it was over for me once the model was completed though for everyone else involved in the production it was just starting.

I think there might be a control thing for me in being attracted to minature stuff. So easy to manipulate, so easy to make it look and work the way I want it to, so easy to change it on a whim or after careful consideration.

I have been making picture collages. Clearly there is emotional stuff in that. I surprise myself with the images I come up with.

They have helped me understand the hurting, fearful child buried within. I don't let him come forward much in a feeling way so the collage making is a way around that.

But, more than that, it is fun and absorbing. I find when I am doing it, I am very much in the present moment, not preoccupied with past, not worrying about the future.

I do other similar stuff, too.
 
I guess my hobbies are

1. Camping with Nicole my wife
2. Mountainbiking
3.Inline skating
4. Home renovations
5. Working out

Guess that is it.
 
I've had a ton of different hobbies. My current one is college. After looking at hobbies from a slightly different perspective, I saw how much time, energy, and money went into them. I watched my friends with theirs. They did not seem to be getting very much at all out of them for all of the things that were put into them. Yes, I know that a small amount of enjoyment can be worth a lot. I spent some time thinking about it, and decided that I wanted a hobby that I could enjoy. One that I would reap real tangable rewards from. One that in the long run shouldn't cost me any money at all. One that the rewards far out weigh the costs. So, I went back to college as a hobby.
 
EGL,

My hobby is a weird one. I'm 25 and started to do stand-up comedy over a year ago. I've always loved acting, but it wasn't enough. Maybe it's because I'm a control freak and didn't want to spend my time speaking someone else's words.

It came out of my journal that I had started about two years ago, before the rape. Performed about 8 times so far. I love the rush it gives me. Plus, it was the only thing that kept me somewhat sane during the last year. Stand-up became my best friend in a way.

Take it easy,
Fusion
 
cycling is a big one, a possitive one as far as coping.

cooking is another favorite.

i have had others, but as i have tried to simplify my life, i've stopped many of them.
 
I really like to cook even though I don't have my taste back yet.

I like to travel, even if it's just on business. I like to see new places and see things that I've never seen before.

I have a fast car and a couple of even faster motorcycles.

I like to bicycle around town and in the park.

I used to hike and camp but I haven't lately.

I want to learn to sail a boat.

I still really enjoy my work.

Steve
 
I'm 37 and I just took up TaeKwonDo 3 weeks ago. I quickly fell in-love with the sport as it requires me to focus on what I am doing which gets me away from my inner demons. It feels good to kick and punch the crap out of a bag too. My other hobby was/is computer gaming. My fingers are in Olympic shape from the years and years of training on a mouse and game pad. ;)
 
hobbies, hmmm

my car restoration project, assuming it ever gets beyond the dream stage, the desire to have a golf game (can't say i am working on improving mine yet), theology, history, problem solving...writing, sheep jokes (don't ask ;) ). that about does it.
 
I'd have gone completly crazy without my hobbies, and I believe we 'need' something to ground us, and a hobby can do that.

When I was about 8yo my dad had access to an ex army 4x4 ( NOT a Jeep, this was a British Austin Champ ) and 60 acres of waste land, and I sat on his knee and learned to drive.
Before long I found out where the key was hidden and took off on my own.
To this day I just love everything about driving off road and compete regularly in off road trials. I rarely come home with a trophy, but that doesn't matter a bit to me as I'm not a competitive person.
I just love the personal challenge of driving where no sane person would even think of going. It still scares me, and my personal record is six complete rolls down a hillside - but I haven't bottled out of trying anything yet !
A big part of my hobby is building and modifying vehicles to compete in, sometimes I get it right as well.

Other than that I love landscape photography and restoring our old cottage.

Dave
 
hey.

My hobbies vary from time to time but ive got 3 that i always do, which are...

1. Guitar (playing gigs with my band)

2.Sign language (i am a sign language interpretor)

3.Motorbikes (my bike is my baby :cool: )

And some other passing fads heheheh..

Sln!!!

Irish.
 
Record collecting and baseball. Actually, it's hard to call records a hobby these days, since I'm also selling them, in addition to buying them.
 
Now that I am better with English, I like reading a lot. I liked it before, but it is harder to get Russian language books here! ;) I also like to go fishing, and bowling, and play soccer some, but not so much anymore. And I do very bad golf. The ball do not go anywhere nearly where I want it to go, but I hit it far away! I like to drive the golf cart. Actually, I like to drive in general, so I guess that would be another.

Leosha
 
Sailing is my hobby. I can go to the marina and work on my boat and no one bothers me. To be out on the river, sailing with my wife or a friend is great. Just quiet, the wind and the sun.
 
Hobby?....Hmmmm...lets see.

Making Beer. But thats too simple an answer.
I enjoy learning about the styles of wine & beer, the different Grapes, Grains, Hops, Malts, Yeasts & everything associated with the design, & creation of wine, beer & mead. I spend a lot of time reseaching this on-line, & creating my own recipes. And, I love sharing the finished results with friends & family.
There is another social aspect to it, I belong to a Beer Club & a Wine Club. We get together to share our creations & our experiences, & just socialize. Its really not like I'm an alcoholic & we are just a bunch of boozers.

My other, kind of private hobby, is Astronomy.
I have a Meade 8" SCT. Looking at Mars up close was amazing. Looking at other galaxies is even more awesome to me.
 
PARTY - everyone round to Blacken's house ! :D

Dave ;)
 
I'll get the ice.

phoster and steve bring snacks. (well, you said cooking was a hobby!)
 
Running or walking. I like to be outside. I also like basketball, and soccer. I like to draw, and to build things or carve with wood, and I like to cook sometime.

andrei
 
Eddie - hobbies / activities are a strange thing:

I understand what you mean about creating your own world where you can control what happens in it.

What I have discovered/realised over recent months is that everyone does this (we are the same as everyone else in this aspect).

What do I do (in no particular order)?

a/ I play guitar when I am in the right frame of mind (about 30 more mins & I'll be plugging in I think) - I used to do this purely to drown other noises out...it's now pleasureable.
b/ I sometimes just sit & enjoy the silence (it took 34-35 years to be able to experience this... it was initially very frightening, now I can appreciate it).
c/ I actually tidy my house up (since reclaiming the abusive locations, & coming out of my time warp I have removed around 11 bin bags of rubbish/junk/ unwanted articles & items / stuff that I was hanging on to). I was hanging on to stuff for comfort...it's just clutter...recycled though!
d/ eating properly (yes I know you said hobbies...we all need hobbies & we all need to eat). Today after I got up, I could feel myself starting to slip a little bit - I made a decent meal (okay I got up late) of Steak & Kidney pie with loads of veg (frozen to cooked in 6 mins). After I ate that, it took about 1 hour & I felt so much better.
e/ I have created a garden at the front of my house. Where I live in England, it is an old stone terraced house (street of houses that actually join on to each other)that initially had a piece of concrete about 1 yard wide in front of the house. I've had iron railings fitted & created a small garden that I am very proud of - the main part is only about 18inches wide by about 15 feet long. It contains conifers, clematis, a grape vine, weeping hearts, English marigolds(calendula), sage, rosemary etc. There are little old ladies that go past with their dogs that comment on how good it looks. I did it for me, but so many other people seem to get pleasure from such a simple thing. Then there's the back yard (an English back yard is again quite tiny)...clematis / honeysuckle / russian vine / climbing roses / jasmine etc. I don't know how I got so much stuff into such a small space.
f/ I tell my friends how I feel (not so much a hobby as self survival). I recently stated to my friends how low I had been in December & that I may not have been here at all without relevant intervention....I have strict instructions re: communications. Talking is the hobby!
g/ I could go on all night, but I think that my biggest hobby now is living!

There are things that we would all like to change or erase. It took a lot of effort for me to reach a more positive state, that's why I post my real feelings / regression & progression here. It would be wrong of me to say that recovery, or reclaiming our lives is simple...it's not! It took me 34/35 years to really say that there is a problem.... recovery cannot realistically be overnight. What I am indicating, is that we should all aim to progress - hopefully one day we will eventually wake up & everything will be OK

I'll settle for 99%!

I have my dreams again (you know the positive ones).... smile everyone..Rik

Life is out there for the taking...take it...Rik
 
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