Hi, new here

Hi, new here
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Nightwolf

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What a relief it was to find this site, to know that I'm not alone. I was SA when I was 9 yrs old and recently started having memories about it. I'm married with 3 kids and this has taken it's toll on my marriage. I was chatting online with other men, having sexual thoughts of men, and yet not attracted to men, talk about being confused.

My wife knows everything and has been trying to help me through this. We are seeing a counselor about this also.

I have a question for some of you, what do you do when you have a strong urge to chat sexually with other men?

Thanks
 
Nightwolf,

First of all, I wish you hadn't needed to find us, but I am glad you are here.

I think you will find that the attraction and/or thinking of men by straight men here more pervasive that you thought. And that should make you feel at home, eh?

You are most welcome here.

Marc
 
Nightwolf,

Welcome to our little community. I hope you find it as helpful as I do. And sorry you had the need to search us out.

That last question is probably a good question for the "Sexual Identity Issues" forum.

It is confusing on having thoughts of something that you aren't attracted to. When I am severly intimidated by a man, feel threatened, I start having thoughts of performing oral sex on him. It's not that I want to give oral sex to men or do anything sexual with another man, it is my trained response. I know where this comes from and was also my first post on this site.



One night 'he' came into the room with that look on his face. I so much wanted him to go away, but 'he' was going to get what he came in for even if it meant that he would hurt me again to get it. Instead of letting him rape me, I performed oral sex on him, the first it wasn't just jambed down my throat. After his 'triumph' of getting that, he left, I wasn't raped. That left the fantasy that if I performed oral sex, I wouldn't be hurt.



Understanding the thoughts and where they come from is an important step in retraining yourself with thoughts that aren't destructive and destrubing.

Take care,
Bill
 
NW,

welcome, you found the site, I hope it is of value to you. A place to find answers to some of your questions.

take care

ste
 
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