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Hi I am new
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six string samurai

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I was in the chatroom last night as Milo.

Uhh.. well I am new :)

My name is Milo and I am 19, I dunno if what happened to me as abuse though but I guess the general consensus of people I talked to is that it was. But I dunno if I belong here really

Just introducing myself...
 
Welcome to Male Survivor, Milo.

It seems you are trying to decide your satus here, whether you belong or not.
Well, if you find, or feel, there were some negative consequences to your experience, then you might find this site to be helpful.

Sex between a 30 yr old and a 13 yr old is considered an abusive relationship, even if you felt you enjoyed it, & even though it was with a woman.

Spend some time in chat, read this forum, & take some time to process all this. Then you will be better armed to answer your own questions & start addressing your own needs.

Blacken
 
Hi Milo. It was a pleasure meeting you in chat last night. Maybe we can get a chance to talk more tonite. Like we were saying last night and like Blacken just said above you were to young to know it was wrong and the adult was way old enough to know it WAS wrong. And like you also said you've been thru 6 years of hell since, so it has affected you in a very negative way. Maybe by just sharing and talking with some of the guys here at Male Survivor we can help you work thru some of that. Feel free to send a private message to any of the guys you might feel comfortable talking with.

Welcome to our humble home.

Al
 
Welcome Milo,

I've been here for only about a month now. Something that I found and everyone here will agree is whether or not to call what happened to us abuse. Call it self-doubt. We don't want to fully admit to ourselves that anyone could have control over us, especially when it comes to sex because sex is a gift that is given to us so that we can express ourselves with others.

Our bodies respond to stimulus. My attacker was a man and it happened about 15 months ago. I was drunk, drugged, and had no control over my body or thoughts, yet I still doubt whether is was abuse. Why? I think because we want a simple answer and we want things to go away. Read again the definition of sexual abuse, it helps. Come back and post here often. People here have made sure I don't feel alone. We're here because we don't want to be alone anymore and we don't other men to be alone either.

Your abuse is over my friend. Anything after that you're abusing yourself for something that was out of your control. Allow yourself to heal and try not to overthink things too much. Hell, the panic attacks I suffer really come out of me being so neurotic, but I had rather do that than push things away and never deal with them.

Take it easy.
 
Milo
I don't go to the chat room, you guys are there when it's about 4-00am here in the UK, way past my bedtime.

But the chances are that you have been abused - why else would you end up at a site like this ? You must have some doubts as to what happened to you ?

Sex abuse can often be more to do with the abuse of power or influence than actual sex, abusers are usually on a 'power trip' and seeking control over another person, they are so inadequate that other adults see right through them, so they pick on kids.

Take some time to read some of the other topics here, maybe you'll recognise whats going through your mind ?
If you do, stick around and enjoy some of the best support and help you could ever ask for.

Dave
 
Welcome Milo,

I didn't get a chance to meet you in chat last night, maybe tonight. (I'll be there from at least from 8-11 pm Eastern, although I may be a few minutes late tonight.)

30 y.o. with a 13 y.o. is definately abuse. You already feel that, at least a little, or you wouldn't have felt the need to come join us.

Now to introduce myself, I'm Bill, as you probably could tell. I wasn't too creative with my nick. I'm one of the moderators in the chat room, so if you have any problems or such, feel free to give me a hollar.

Bill
 
Milo,

If you felt the need to search for someplace like this, then whether anyone wants to call it "abuse" or not doesn't really matter. It's what it did to you that makes it abuse or not. You did find your way here, and if this group of people is as helpful to you as they have been and are to me, then don't worry about labels. Sometimes when I get in denial about what the past brought out in me (specifically the diagnosis), someone will point out that I'm reacting against the label, and labels are for insurance companies, not for human beings.

I don't get to chat much, but when I do, I log in there as "outis" as well. Easier to keep track that way.

Thanks,

Joe
 
Milo,
First off, six string samurai, brilliant name!

Welcome to the family. I hope we can help you find the answers you are looking for. I am sure lots of other guys have told you how cool the guys here are. They are! We will all try to help as much as we can. They have helped me in so many ways!
Well, I hope to meet you soon. Take care of yourself, and never forget that you are strong!
 
Welcome Milo. I don't go to chat, so would not meet you there. I am glad that you are here. I have had something happen in past that I wonder if it is abuse, and other things that I know were. You will recieve understanding and support here. I wish you luck.

Leosha
 
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