Hi everyone
WeighedDown
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Hi there guys,
I’m new to this site but am grateful to have found a place with people who understand what the hell is going on in my mind.
Essentially-
I’m 30 and have always had a very foggy and choppy memory of my childhood. There was a lot of emotional and mental abuse happening from both parents. I come from a very large extended family with 25 cousins on just one side. I had always felt like I was molested but couldn’t place it although i had disturbing memories involving my male cousins but was scared to ask anyone in my family.
Last year I had a conversation with my sister where she revealed to me that she was molested by cousin (one of the ones I have the molestation memories of)
I called my mother and said I need to tell you that there was sexual abuse going on to me and my sister when we were kids and she IMMEDIATELY said it was my cousin (and was correct on exactly who it was out of 25)
She said she thought she witnessed him fondling me but the family told her she was crazy and fought with her til she dropped it.
So here I am, 30 years old and having many difficult flash backs and memories and realizations about my life and my past.
It’s hard to look back at your childhood and have large chunks missing and a cloud of horrible memories blanketing the rest of it.
A LOT is hazy and confusing but i am 100 percent sure I remember there being an adult male involved.
I have a feeling that it was someone who was abusing me and my two male cousins and my cousin in turn behaved the way he did to my sister and I.
Some things I struggle with that I believe are a result of this
-overweight! I always have struggled with this and think I overeat as a coping mechanism
-flashbacks around children. I have no attraction towards children at all but sometimes I will feel like people think I do
(Does this make sense? It’s a baseless fear but I feel it’s connected
-major insomnia and lifelong sleepwalking/night terrors
-identity issues. I am a firm believer that I was born gay but sometimes an evil little voice comes in and tells me it’s because of this.
Does it get easier? Does talking here help people feel a little less trapped by this?
Anyway
Sorry for the long ramble
I haven’t talked to many people about this stuff and it is nice to be able to let it out.
Peace and thanks for the support
I’m new to this site but am grateful to have found a place with people who understand what the hell is going on in my mind.
Essentially-
I’m 30 and have always had a very foggy and choppy memory of my childhood. There was a lot of emotional and mental abuse happening from both parents. I come from a very large extended family with 25 cousins on just one side. I had always felt like I was molested but couldn’t place it although i had disturbing memories involving my male cousins but was scared to ask anyone in my family.
Last year I had a conversation with my sister where she revealed to me that she was molested by cousin (one of the ones I have the molestation memories of)
I called my mother and said I need to tell you that there was sexual abuse going on to me and my sister when we were kids and she IMMEDIATELY said it was my cousin (and was correct on exactly who it was out of 25)
She said she thought she witnessed him fondling me but the family told her she was crazy and fought with her til she dropped it.
So here I am, 30 years old and having many difficult flash backs and memories and realizations about my life and my past.
It’s hard to look back at your childhood and have large chunks missing and a cloud of horrible memories blanketing the rest of it.
A LOT is hazy and confusing but i am 100 percent sure I remember there being an adult male involved.
I have a feeling that it was someone who was abusing me and my two male cousins and my cousin in turn behaved the way he did to my sister and I.
Some things I struggle with that I believe are a result of this
-overweight! I always have struggled with this and think I overeat as a coping mechanism
-flashbacks around children. I have no attraction towards children at all but sometimes I will feel like people think I do
(Does this make sense? It’s a baseless fear but I feel it’s connected
-major insomnia and lifelong sleepwalking/night terrors
-identity issues. I am a firm believer that I was born gay but sometimes an evil little voice comes in and tells me it’s because of this.
Does it get easier? Does talking here help people feel a little less trapped by this?
Anyway
Sorry for the long ramble
I haven’t talked to many people about this stuff and it is nice to be able to let it out.
Peace and thanks for the support