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Non-Descript

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Stumbled across this site a short while ago and have been reticent about participating. Who would have thought there was a place like this? Who would have thought there would be a place for me? I'm very (deathly!) shy and quiet and talking about these things is difficult for me, but I want each of you to know that your talking makes it easier for me to do my own. Mine went on for three years, 8 - 11. Wasn't so bad to say that.

Thanks for listening.
 
Hello

you didn't say your name

welcome to MS, sorry you have to be here, but glad you found it, just like me, sometimes it is sad to be here, but you can find heart in that others have survived the same as yourself

Take as long as you want, you've already started, the few words make the difference, maybe this is the first time you have uttered anything about it, but pat yourself on the back for making the huge step..

take care

ste
 
ND
Let me call you that, I'm sure 'non-descript' is not the real you.

Why do I think that ? because you've made an effort to find us, you've searched for help with what's troubling you. And that's the sign of someone who is at least starting to care about themselves. This is a good place to start as well.

Nobody here passes judgement, we don't 'rate' one persons abuse as any better or worse than the next mans. All we do is support and help each other.

The life we live as victims of abuse can be very troubled and confusing, but we can make great changes within ourselves and make life what we want it to be, so stick around and make the best of your life.

Dave
 
Hi Non-Descript... as has been said, I'm so sorry you need a place like this, but glad that you found us. I couldn't imagine life without this support system now.

Feel free to lean on us, post, ask questions, or simply read other posts. It took me a while to open up here and I still get the shakes sometimes when I post something revealing about my history or memories.

Glad you are here.
 
ND,

I am with these guys in welcoming you.

Remember, you are anonymous here. That might help.

As Dave said, we don't judge by degree. So you are welcome because you needed to find us and you are one of us.

Share what you will, when you will. It is all up to you. No one will pressure you to do anything else. We're just glad you are taking the steps to heal yourself. Or, let me make that more personal I am glad you are doing this.

Peace,

Marc
 
ND
It is said a journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step. Congrats on making that step. I know how hard it is to talk about the abuse, but it will help expediate your healing to do so. But still, do not feel any pressure to share with us. Do what feels good to you, when it feels right. You are the only one who can judge when the time to share is. Welcome to the family!
Casey
 
hi nd,

welcome to our site from me as well.

as the others have shered, you are welcome to post anything, anytime. nothing i think surprises us having all been there.

i guess i was non descript too to a cetain extent. hid my shit for 31 years and i was just 10. hell, he did not beat me, he told me he loved me, i was his g/f- that sick fucker.

acted like i was o.k., i could be tough, i faked it quite well. not until a devatating another failed relationship, did i finally go to a t and realized that this shit changed me as person.some believe it or not in good areas (workaholism, being able to fire peole if needed, communication and manipulation skills- both negative and positive) , but a lot "bad" if you will in relationships, needyness, trust betrayal, loneliness, really liking myself, etc..

anyhow, i am on a journey, others are too. will we be healed?, hell, i don't know. but you making your step and me making mine, i just want us to be better overall, deal with it, and be able to function better overall.

take care our brother, guy
 
ND,

I just stumbled into this place a few weeks ago. Can't even remember how I got here. But I am so very happy to be here with you. My time of sexual abuse was when I was 9-12. It really screwed up my self image.

We all have different experiances, in the details. But we have so much in common that those little differences fade away into our common goal of being helped and helping.

Welcome,

Aden
 
ND,

Whether it happens once or a thousand times, it still bloody hurts. I'm glad you found this place, though I'm sorry you needed it.

The brothers here understand. It hurts, my friend. It hurts to talk about it. it hurts to think about it. But once you do, and that dirty little veil of shameful lies the abusers tried to shift on you fades away, it gets easier. Pretty soon, the abuse doesn't quite have the same hold on you as it did.

This, by the way, coming from someone who's ridden, and still rides, the seesaw of self-blame and hate. Still, it's getting better. EVen more from talking to people who understand.

Speak when you're ready. Listen often. And know that none of it was your fault and you have every right to get better from it. It's doable. Hard, but doable.

You're not alone in this anymore. You have friends. brothers.

Peace and love,

Scot
 
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