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reality2k4
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Hello to you too,
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Hello, Sir!
roadrunner
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Hi Trev -welcome back! What's up?
Much love,
Larry
Much love,
Larry
lostcowboy
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Howdy! Welcome back!
Take care,
Clifford
Take care,
Clifford
roadrunner
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Hi Trev,
Sounds like things didn't go so well at school. Do you want to talk about it?
Much love,
Larry
Sounds like things didn't go so well at school. Do you want to talk about it?
Much love,
Larry
Hauser
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Well Trev, can you still get your GED? I'm asking that cuz' many places won't hire you unless you have it, (places that pay any good money that is).
Please don't be discouraged, you can still succeed educationally. For instance, I'm going for professional certifications. I already got my A+ Certification,
https://certification.comptia.org/a/default.aspx
and now I'm going for Network+ certification.
https://certification.comptia.org/network/default.aspx
Well you know what's cool about this? They could CARE LESS about how good your grades were in school. So please consider looking to you local County Vocational Center, every county in the U.S. has one I think. They teach all sorts of cool trades to learn like Automotive Repair, Home Construction, Welding, etc. Once you earn a state certification in any of these areas, they don't care if you have a diploma.
I think I know why you quit. The teachers are god-awful boring, the subjects are boring, and your mind is constantly clouded and distracting you with thoughts of a dreadful past that just won't seem to go away. Don't be discouraged though ok? You have many open doors available to you even though maybe it seems like you just had one slammed shut in your face.
Please don't be discouraged, you can still succeed educationally. For instance, I'm going for professional certifications. I already got my A+ Certification,
https://certification.comptia.org/a/default.aspx
and now I'm going for Network+ certification.
https://certification.comptia.org/network/default.aspx
Well you know what's cool about this? They could CARE LESS about how good your grades were in school. So please consider looking to you local County Vocational Center, every county in the U.S. has one I think. They teach all sorts of cool trades to learn like Automotive Repair, Home Construction, Welding, etc. Once you earn a state certification in any of these areas, they don't care if you have a diploma.
I think I know why you quit. The teachers are god-awful boring, the subjects are boring, and your mind is constantly clouded and distracting you with thoughts of a dreadful past that just won't seem to go away. Don't be discouraged though ok? You have many open doors available to you even though maybe it seems like you just had one slammed shut in your face.
roadrunner
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Trev,
The fights are understandable and I know how you feel. I remember going through exactly the same thing when I was in school. When I would walk down the hill to the bus stop I would gradually shift into a kind of unreal "school mode".
For me, that meant being super-alert all the time, in case anyone figured me out (I thought they would do that any second). I hated gym class because I wondered would anything show; the teacher was a bastard anyway and made fun of me personally. Some classes I really liked, but even there we would be talking about "Hamlet", for example, and my mind would be a million miles away: when will it happen next?, will he hurt me bad or just do me?, why can't I make this stop? Even after he was caught and it was all over, I just collapsed further - always thinking and asking questions inside myself, knowing I could never talk about this. I felt doomed: I would never have any answers and I would always be alone and ashamed.
Sound familiar?
Much love,
Larry
The fights are understandable and I know how you feel. I remember going through exactly the same thing when I was in school. When I would walk down the hill to the bus stop I would gradually shift into a kind of unreal "school mode".
For me, that meant being super-alert all the time, in case anyone figured me out (I thought they would do that any second). I hated gym class because I wondered would anything show; the teacher was a bastard anyway and made fun of me personally. Some classes I really liked, but even there we would be talking about "Hamlet", for example, and my mind would be a million miles away: when will it happen next?, will he hurt me bad or just do me?, why can't I make this stop? Even after he was caught and it was all over, I just collapsed further - always thinking and asking questions inside myself, knowing I could never talk about this. I felt doomed: I would never have any answers and I would always be alone and ashamed.
Sound familiar?
Much love,
Larry
roadrunner
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Trev,
One thing to remember about "sex talk" is that those who talk the most are doing it the least. Sex is on the minds of teenagers all the time; it's part of growing up. But it's also part of "belonging", and it's a huge temptation to make up stories just to be like the other guys. What the guys don't get is that the majority of them are doing exactly that - making things up to look cool.
I didn't like talking about sex, for obvious reasons, and I said so. If my friends asked "So you're still a virgin?", I just answered yes. That was easy, because I really WISHED that it were true. Later when I had my first girlfriend they would ask gross questions like "So you fucking her yet?" When that kind of thing got said I told them, "Fuck off, she's my girlfriend", and things would just get quiet.
Running down parents is also a part of the drill, Trev. It's one of the things you're supposed to do. Guys think it shows how independent and grown up they are. But yes, I know how you feel, and you are so right; most of them have no idea how lucky they are.
The big question, though, would be this. Will this pain stop if you leave school? Won't you still get the same shit wherever you are? I know from summer jobs that the teenager on the crew always gets kidded and teased by the older guys. If you leave school, won't that hurt you in important ways?
I guess the point I want to make here is that running never solves a survivor's problems. We try to escape, but the hurt and confusion seem to follow us everywhere. That's because it comes from within us in the first place. The problem about sex talk, for example, isn't the talk itself, which is mostly harmless macho bullshit; the problem is how you, as a teen survivor (or me when I was your age), REACT to that talk. See what I mean?
Much love,
Larry
One thing to remember about "sex talk" is that those who talk the most are doing it the least. Sex is on the minds of teenagers all the time; it's part of growing up. But it's also part of "belonging", and it's a huge temptation to make up stories just to be like the other guys. What the guys don't get is that the majority of them are doing exactly that - making things up to look cool.
I didn't like talking about sex, for obvious reasons, and I said so. If my friends asked "So you're still a virgin?", I just answered yes. That was easy, because I really WISHED that it were true. Later when I had my first girlfriend they would ask gross questions like "So you fucking her yet?" When that kind of thing got said I told them, "Fuck off, she's my girlfriend", and things would just get quiet.
Running down parents is also a part of the drill, Trev. It's one of the things you're supposed to do. Guys think it shows how independent and grown up they are. But yes, I know how you feel, and you are so right; most of them have no idea how lucky they are.
The big question, though, would be this. Will this pain stop if you leave school? Won't you still get the same shit wherever you are? I know from summer jobs that the teenager on the crew always gets kidded and teased by the older guys. If you leave school, won't that hurt you in important ways?
I guess the point I want to make here is that running never solves a survivor's problems. We try to escape, but the hurt and confusion seem to follow us everywhere. That's because it comes from within us in the first place. The problem about sex talk, for example, isn't the talk itself, which is mostly harmless macho bullshit; the problem is how you, as a teen survivor (or me when I was your age), REACT to that talk. See what I mean?
Much love,
Larry
roadrunner
Registrant
Trev,
Cool. So what do you reckon you could do about these problems, whether in school or elsewhere? Any ideas?
That's another skill that's difficult for a survivor to learn. When something really rough confronts us, so often we automatically assume that we can't handle it. We feel powerless, afraid and worthless, so we fold rather than look at the problem to see what we can do about it.
That makes things worse, of course, because it looks like the problem has "won" and we figure we have failed again.
Much love,
Larry
Cool. So what do you reckon you could do about these problems, whether in school or elsewhere? Any ideas?
That's another skill that's difficult for a survivor to learn. When something really rough confronts us, so often we automatically assume that we can't handle it. We feel powerless, afraid and worthless, so we fold rather than look at the problem to see what we can do about it.
That makes things worse, of course, because it looks like the problem has "won" and we figure we have failed again.
Much love,
Larry
Trevor,
I hope whatever you choose, whether to go to school or get 'GED', or to work, it will work out for you. Just remember, even in work, away from school, there will be the idiots and a$$holes who do not understand. It's just part of the life. And yes, being around other teens, who are bitching about their families who are much better then yours, I am sure it is hard. But fact is, that is just life of 'normal' teens, something we aren't or weren't. It is hard to judge other people based on our own experiences. They just won't line up.
Good luck to you.
Leosha
I hope whatever you choose, whether to go to school or get 'GED', or to work, it will work out for you. Just remember, even in work, away from school, there will be the idiots and a$$holes who do not understand. It's just part of the life. And yes, being around other teens, who are bitching about their families who are much better then yours, I am sure it is hard. But fact is, that is just life of 'normal' teens, something we aren't or weren't. It is hard to judge other people based on our own experiences. They just won't line up.
Good luck to you.
Leosha