Hello to Everyone!

[normal guy]

I recently joined MS, and will be attending the WOR in July. I feel so lucky to have found this organization, this web site, and these forums. I am also in my second attempt with a therapist, and as a result, am currently in a much better place with my recovery. It is so nice to finally have an outlet to discuss the trials and tribulations of my recovery with people who truly understand what it is like. I am 56 years old, have been married for 32 years, and have one son. I am retired military, but continue to work full time for a Class I Railroad. At the age of nine, I was sexually molested every night for a week, while I was in the hospital recovering from surgery. The perpetrators were females, one nurse and one nun, who were supposedly in charge of my safety and care. The events of that one week, forever changed my childhood and life.
They continue to wreak havoc on my physical and mental well being. But for once, I finally feel like I am on the right path to facing my past, accepting my present, and looking forward to my future, by truly giving myself to recovery and doing the hard work necessary to achieve it. In the days and weeks ahead, I will be sharing more on these forums, and look forward to the words of encouragement and support from all of you. What a blessing... and I thank all of you for being here!

 

[woodenshoes]

Normal Guy

Were glad to have you. It is a terrible thing that brought you here. We all have our own stories with a end result the same. We are a group of supporters for each other. I don't understand why it happens to us at a age we are looking forward to a happy retirement. Then we hit a brick wall head on and try to re group. I hope you reach out to confirm your questions or concerns.

Woodenshoes

 

[WG]

Normal Guy - Welcome - and yet sorry about what brought you here. My story was also abuse - physical/mental/sexual at an early age. I was 5 - 8 years old and it was often. I'm 62 years old, married 34 years with 3 grown children. They all know, but have never - thank the Lord - experienced any of this. Keep on. Never give up and never stop trying. Stay with the therapist if you're getting what you need to move forward. I have a great therapist who speaks truth into who I am and applauds even the smallest of triumphs and challenges me to grow. Stay with it!

 

[Rurai]

Hi and welcome to the site, hope and trust that being here will be helpful

 

[manipulated]

normal guy

Welcome! So glad you have found progress with the second T and are planning on attending the WoR. I am on my 3rd T in as many years, completed Blue Ridge Spring of 15 and Hope Springs this Spring and made great strides forward each time in working through my past: A Scoutmaster/church elder/boyhood friend of my Dad's that was my Perp who "taught" me how to please from 11 to 15, a 34 year marriage (unfortunately now separated), two adult children and 40+ years of denial that I was abused because I believed the lies I was taught.

So our stories are different yet very similar; A recurrent theme as Perps are perps and victims need to first recognize they were victims before we can start breaking the chains that preserved the secrets and kept us in perp controlled bondage for so long. In my case even years after the perp died in 2002.

I am sorry for the reasons we are all here but find the safety, the light of those who have passed the same path before, that know before I speak what I feel has been vital to my progress. May it be the same for you.

manipulated