hello everyone, it's me for the first time.....

[shawna]

i finally decided to register for the board after viewing a lot of this site for over a month.
i am very close to someone who is a victim of abuse..
he is very dear to me and i told him about this site. he likes it too. anyhow i give it a thumbs up. there aren't many resources specifically for abused males and this is the best one i've seen so far.
how is everyone doing anyway?

 

[Lloydy]

Shawna
thanks for the compliments, we believe this to be the best site of it's kind and we try hard to make it safe and supportive. I hope your friend, and you, find it a good place to come for support.

I checked your link, and sadly it's a story that's all too common. But people care and these abusers are slowly being exposed.
I try to look forward to the day when we don't need sites like these.

Dave

 

[Mike Church]

Shawna:
Welcome and thanks for the complements. It is people like you that we need a whole lot more of. Someone who supports one of us in need.

We are all doing our best to heal. Big difference between existing in life( coping) and living life. Hope this makes sense.

Tell your friend that he is welcome to join. We are here for each other. And a finer bunch of wolves you will never find anywhere.

 

[Cement]

Thanks for the kind hello, Shawna.

Although you asked the question rhetorically, I am going to answer specifically. I hope you won't mind.

I am doing okay, and trying to do better, as most surivivors do. We are a tough breed. Lost innocence and the ravages of abuse aside, we are reaching for the light.

I am 43 years old and I feel like I awoke from a coma last year, when the reality of my abuse finally forced me to aggressively pursue my healing.

I am sad that I am just now 'coming to.' I wish somehow I could have become aware sooner; there is so much I want to do.

I want to write stories and move people to understand in a way they haven't before. Yet I suddenly feel as though there are only so many Saturdays left for me, and so many chores to do.

My bones ache when I rise and my head often hurts when I lay down.

But your smiling greeting warmed me today, and I am touched deeply by the story of Dontee Stokes, which is certainly a story worthy of telling time and again.

Peace,
James