Hello again
Hello again
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Welcome back smc1972. It does take time from what we may otherwise do, to look at so much of what is, oft times a mirror of whom we are. It can be invigorating, or alarming, or sometimes toxic. We can work for ourselves to take care of our needs as we wander around different posts and read threads.
I hope you'll find what you're needing and build what connections work for you.
Best wishes.
I hope you'll find what you're needing and build what connections work for you.
Best wishes.
SMC1972
Glad to hear from you. Healing is a process and we all move through it at different paces. We attain a level of feeling safe and somewhat free of the abuse. Then something triggers or brings us back to a different point in the healing process. We just have to reach the other side of the summit--many do while others take more time.
I am glad you came back for support--it is a place that can help you re-focus and start your upward trajectory once again.
Take care
Kevin
Glad to hear from you. Healing is a process and we all move through it at different paces. We attain a level of feeling safe and somewhat free of the abuse. Then something triggers or brings us back to a different point in the healing process. We just have to reach the other side of the summit--many do while others take more time.
I am glad you came back for support--it is a place that can help you re-focus and start your upward trajectory once again.
Take care
Kevin
Hello SMC1972!
I am glad you found your way back home. We are here to offer you as much support and encouragement as we can. We all come and go, but when we do need to come back home, there are so many fine men here that will welcome us back with arms wide open. Sometimes, we all need to step away for a little while and that's ok. I am glad you are here and if I can lend an ear, please don't hesitate to reach out. Have a blessed day.
Many blessings,
Donald
I am glad you found your way back home. We are here to offer you as much support and encouragement as we can. We all come and go, but when we do need to come back home, there are so many fine men here that will welcome us back with arms wide open. Sometimes, we all need to step away for a little while and that's ok. I am glad you are here and if I can lend an ear, please don't hesitate to reach out. Have a blessed day.
Many blessings,
Donald
AuthenticMe
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Quitting is giving up something forever. You're not a quitter, because you found your way back here.
A quitter would be someone who drops out and is never heard from again. Hopeless, with no desire to ever change the hopelessness. By coming back you’ve put that idea to rest,
Hallmark and Norman Rockwell have presented such an idealic idea of Christmas and the holiday season that it can be really depressing when we can’t seem to live up to that great feeling of elation and happiness that we’re supposed to feel at this time of year. It’s the exact opposite of how we feel, so it’s only natural to bring on the tears.
I manage a whole lot better this time of year if I don’t play the “me too” game and try to compare what I’m dealing with against what others expect of me.
Hallmark and Norman Rockwell have presented such an idealic idea of Christmas and the holiday season that it can be really depressing when we can’t seem to live up to that great feeling of elation and happiness that we’re supposed to feel at this time of year. It’s the exact opposite of how we feel, so it’s only natural to bring on the tears.
I manage a whole lot better this time of year if I don’t play the “me too” game and try to compare what I’m dealing with against what others expect of me.
AuthenticMe
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Holidays can be difficult for survivors, especially for those of us who were abused by family members and have to endure the subtle and not-so-subtle messages that we should be "enjoying time with our families" during this time of the year.
I would encourage you to try not to feel bad about feeling bad about the abuse. It's not easy and we've all done it, but it can be a real act of self-kindness to not beat ourselves up about being a survivor.
I would encourage you to try not to feel bad about feeling bad about the abuse. It's not easy and we've all done it, but it can be a real act of self-kindness to not beat ourselves up about being a survivor.
Yes I do have that mind of how holidays are to be the Norman Rockwell version. I want that happiness and joyful imagage. I think at times I can be there but can’t remain.
I am my own worst enemy in that I judge myself the hardest. I feel I let family and friends down to much. Like here, I have only had wonderful supportive messages ever time I am here then I flake and drop out without a word and I will later tell myself I am a looser. Sorry I don’t mean to be a downer. I know I have to be a better person.
Again I appreciate the kind words.
I am my own worst enemy in that I judge myself the hardest. I feel I let family and friends down to much. Like here, I have only had wonderful supportive messages ever time I am here then I flake and drop out without a word and I will later tell myself I am a looser. Sorry I don’t mean to be a downer. I know I have to be a better person.
Again I appreciate the kind words.
Napoleon
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The "Norman Rockwell version" is a lie. Most the boy's pictured in these paintings were probably victims of child pornography, it ran far more rampant in scouting back then, few boy's avoided finding their way into nude swimming "scout" picture albums. Many more found their-self worse than nude on a beach.
The poses of the boys were described by some as "contrived and artificial", Baden powel however described the picture albums thus "Tod's photos of naked boys and trees etc. excellent." Later Baden Powel writing to his old school chum who took the photo's "Possibly I might get a further look at those wonderful photographs of yours."
You are chasing a fantasy. The joy and happiness is the thing of paintings, like a Photoshoped photo before Photoshop existed. You are not a looser for being unable to obtain a fantasy that can only be fantasized about in a painting.
The poses of the boys were described by some as "contrived and artificial", Baden powel however described the picture albums thus "Tod's photos of naked boys and trees etc. excellent." Later Baden Powel writing to his old school chum who took the photo's "Possibly I might get a further look at those wonderful photographs of yours."
You are chasing a fantasy. The joy and happiness is the thing of paintings, like a Photoshoped photo before Photoshop existed. You are not a looser for being unable to obtain a fantasy that can only be fantasized about in a painting.
