I'm not sure how the Healing Circle works, but could we use the chat feature on this site? I thought there was a way to have a chat separate from the main chat.
ThanksI'm aware, but have no administrative info, that Healing Circle is still unscheduled. I don't know any of the current reasons. I do know that running it was structured, and that a lot of guys showed up late, without mentioning it to the facilitator. It's important to the flow of an online meeting, that the flow and rules are followed. The many I attended the rules during meetings were followed OK. It was late arrivals which at that time seemed random, which had some cause for concern about what served the participants best.
There were some who had jobs that let out close to the start, and some might have made an arrangement for either Wed. or Sun. to show up when they could. There were some who showed up when they remembered, and that was the kind that had concerns for participants. That late person hadn't read the beginning statements at the open of the meeting, nor had they read maybe one, and then certainly not all or any of the current participant's writing. These shares are confidential to we who attend, we took/take that very seriously, and sometimes a share was requiring a lot of support. This was also facilitated, as we would request to respond, and were called on in the order we requested. It might take many minutes for all to respond, and then for the person seeking support to respond at the end of their time. I don't think any online group is an easy thing to facilitate, and there are sometimes when many need support, but only a few get that owing to time constraints.
Then again, that's why we're here on these Forums, we're doing a lot of similar work in our posts and the threads that ensue.
There were things I thought Healing Circle was not covering, those like explicit sexual language, or examples of physical violence. These can be triggering at the best of times. Many showed up whom were just starting out and were not dealing with the best of times. I considered it unhelpful if someone were to go into explicit details, and there were some rules about that.
Well, my sharing this is to help see what might be part of why it's taking so long for any Healing Circle to restart? That's my conjecture, not based on any facts I've known. My hope is it may return. I thought it helpful.
What's the start time please?This is a drop-in group separate from the general chat. If interested, please familiarize yourself with the guidelines below, and come join in.
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In order to promote orderliness and a sense of safety in this environment, some structure and rules have to be in place:
GROUP INSTRUCTIONS AND ADDITIONAL INFORMATION
- What is said in the room stays in the room. Confidentiality is important in dealing with sharing sensitive subject matter. If you wish to share about yourself in any threads, then that is totally up to you. The exception will be information we wish to be shared to enhance the site or site management to make MaleSurvivor safer or more effective as a place of recovery.
- Check out with the room before leaving for the evening. Dropping out without a graceful exit tends to raise questions with others like Did I say something wrong? If you must leave quickly, try to send the facilitator a quick PM and he can pass that on to the rest of the room. Try also to understand someone may be having technical difficulties that necessitate an unplanned exit.
- No personal attacks or name calling of any kind on other members of the circle. We are all looking for support here, not criticism.
- Information gained from sources outside of the circle (i.e. chat, PMs, etc.) should not be disclosed inside the circle. Confidentiality should be maintained as a two-way street.
Meet in chat at start time and you will be invited into the private Healing Circle room.
Below is some information on how the meetings work, please print this out so you can reference it during the meeting.
When we start the Group, there may be some short announcements before check-in time. Afterwards, when check-in time has arrived, type CI if you would like to do a check-in. If you feel inclined to pass, simply type CI pass. Check Ins should be a sentence or two about how you are doing
REQUESTING FLOOR TIME
If you have a specific issue to share for the evening which needs some length of time, during check-in time would be the best time to indicate that time is needed for sharing. Simply state that you could use some time or need time. In a two-hour time frame, the maximum number of people who need time is best kept at four or less. If we have eight people needing time, no one would get any productive sharing or feedback for the evening. If there happens to be time after everyone has shared, anyone else who wants to share will be notified via PM that there is X amount of time left if they wish to utilize this.
Always type done when you are finished sharing feedback, questions, etc, for your turn. This indicates to the facilitator that the next person can be called upon to share their feedback, question, etc.
If you feel compelled to offer feedback for someone, simply type FB and when the last person who was sharing types done you should be called upon next. Once in a while a person may get skipped amidst the managing of a busy room, and one of us relies on another to keep us up on who requests feedback, so please be patient if you were overlooked, and you will be called upon. If you are the one who is sharing a specific item and desire no feedback, please let the room know by typing
Glad you found it helpful. I have been able to go to one, and I also found it helpful.I attended an ASCA in Santa Clarita, CA last Sunday and I was very impressed. I have been an AA member for many years but have outgrown it and wanted meetings that dealt specifically with trauma, especially sexual abuse. This is not to trash people here on meds, but I wanted to be in an environment where others were reliant more on talking therapy, and less on meds, and I kinda got that feeling at this meeting. Healing from childhood sexual assault is extremely difficult and takes a lot of work. It’s a full time job for me and I’m always looking for anything that’ll help.