Thank you...
Tried to file charges a year ago.
After the rape my husband threw himself down the stairs of their basement. So his mom and dad would not ask him why he was hurting and walking funny.
Then he went and barried his underwear in his back yard. So we had to wait for the ground to thaw before they could did them up. The found the underwear right where my husband said they would. Now the FBI have them then they sent them back to police told them had had to use their own lab. Then that lab sent them back and said they had to send them to the FBI.
I was very angry around this time. So I called the pastor. And when he answered. I asked him how he could stand up there and pretend to represent God, when all he had on his mind was raping children in his office. I asked him many things. All he could say was, who is this? Over adn over again.
I guess he wanted to know which victim was calling. I told him who I was. He hung up called his lawyer. His lawyer called the detective. Our detective called and yelled at me. He said if I were to call him again that he would \drop my husband case.
WHERE THE JUSTICE!!! The following is a letter I sent to the detective after he called me. I have removed the names of everyone.
September 11, 2006
Detective ,
I just hung up the phone with you. You told me that if I contacted Pastor again you would close the case against him.
I would first like to start by saying that I hope you do not ever have a son, daughter or other loved one that is raped in the manner that my husband was, and that that child of yours goes on to grow up with this torment inside and hating you and blaming you for their pain. And then one day their spouse will walk in on them, (on more then one occasion) and your loved one is beating themselves in the head with the butt of a gun or has a gun to their head and says to their spouse, Its nothing that youve done. And his or her spouse walks away thinking this person has gone crazy.
Detective, I have known my husband for nearly thirty years. We are only thirty six years old. For the last two years I have had to watch him change from the person that I have known for that long, from being this strong husband for fifteen years to spiral downward with drugs and alcohol and crawl into a fetal position almost on a nightly basis and cry so hard his body shakes. If that was your son or daughter, could you tell them some of the things you have told me? Would you stop taking their calls because you are too busy doing other things?
This assault may have happened twenty years ago, but the pain is still brand new to my husband and his family, as though it happened this morning!
This case was sent to you on 10/01/2005. You did some work on it and seemed to be quite interested in helping us out. Then, I was told we would have to wait for the ground to thaw to begin digging for the underwear. Of course, we understood. But all I could think is that, There has to be other things that we can do for now so that when the time comes you could dig them up and continue your case. But you did not, you let the case sit. You let the church tell you, You can not come in. You let Pastors ex wife refuse to speak with you. Why didnt you tell Pastors attorney that you refused to speak to him about the phone call I made, just as the Pastor & his ex-wife have refused to speak to you???
Then, when the time came to dig, I was told you couldnt do it until my husband could view a video tape, so My husband can tell you right where to dig. Why couldnt this have been done way before?
Once we received, viewed the tape and sent it back to you, how long did you sit on it? I kept calling once a week, seeking answers on the status of the case. How many times did you even give me the courtesy of a return call? How many messages did I leave with nary a response? Something I think you would do, had this been your son or daughter.
At long last, you decided to get a warrant so you could dig for the underwear with out any problems. Why was this procedure put off for so long? Why didnt you have that warrant in your hands by the time the ground thawed, or even after you mailed us the video for review?
By that time, you had stopped taking my calls and I only called once a week. When the day finally came that you decided to dig and found the fabric in exactly the spot that my husband said you would, you still did not have enough respect for my husband to call and let him know what was found (if anything). You need to realize just how important it is for us to be reassured that something is being done. Sometimes, it feels like, we are out of sight, out of mind. Forgive me, if Im wrong on that.
I had to find out by calling another detective because you quit taking my calls and would not even return a call when I would leave a message. At that time, because proper procedure was not taken the material was sent to the FBI. They, then sent it back to you telling you the proper procedure to use. Now, how much time was wasted there? Then, you sent them to the Wisconsin crime lab. You informed me later they can not do anything with it. At the same time you told me that we are probably SOL, (only eleven months later, almost a YEAR later). Now, youre telling me that youre waiting for a phone call from the FBI and they may or may not take it.
Detective, I can only pray that someone you know and love dearly and hold close to your heart will never have to suffer the pain and question their sexuality like my husband has. You will be shocked at how you will feel their pain run through your body and you will have to keep a smile on your face and assure them that everything will be okay, as your heart and soul will be shattering slowly, like glass and you will feel the pain with each crack. Theres no escape from the pain. You will shatter all day and night. The little relief you might get from the pain is when you speak with a detective and you feel they are doing all they can. You even took that from me.
I suppose I felt that everything was NOT being done on this case as it should have been. And, thats probably why I made the call to the Pastor.
We need to know that this monster is off the street and not just left to do whatever he pleases to any little boy that he comes into contact with. How many lives have to be ruined before he is stopped? How much longer will I have to come home to a house that seems to be way too quiet and wonder if my husband has taken his own life, so as not to have to endure this pain any longer. He needs to know that this animal has paid for what he did to him and to countless others over the past twenty years and for how many years before that?
Tell me, Detective, when all of this comes to a head and many more victims (from 10/01/05 until today) finally have the strength to come forward, will you be able to feel in your heart that you did everything as quickly and sufficiently as you could to get him put behind bars?
For your sake, and theirs, I hope you will be.
I apologize if I have offended you in any way, but being offended is easier to accept than being raped all over again due to lack of caring.
I have tried to get Oprah, Dr.Phil, Montel Williams, Oreily factor, CNN, Fox news no one calls me back.
I bet if my husband were to go beat this piece of shits ass. They would take the case...
Thank all of you for being here.
