HAVE YOU EVER WONDERED ?

HAVE YOU EVER WONDERED ?
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OKIE MIKE

Registrant
How would your life be diffrent if you had neaver molested in the first place . Would you still have the same relationship with friends and family . Would you still make the same choices in life . I offten wonder how much effect being raped all of those years ago has had on my life today
 
Who of us has not pondered this? But a list from me would look something like this:

What I would have retained:

-Self-esteem
-Self confidence
-sexual confidence
-sexual balance
-ability to be intimate
-ability to trust
-understanding of personal worth
-understanding of personal boundaries

what I gained from surviving the experience (meaning what I may not have had without the SA history):

-An uncommon tenacity and perseverence
-A strong sense of spirit
-A commmitment to being a great and present father to my son
-Knowing all of you (this means a lot to me)
-Being able to help others with survival
-Understanding the world in more depth
-Unshakeable hope (don't get where it came from, but it's there, maybe from a sense of "if i could survive that at that age, i can survive anything")

Now looking at this, I see that all the negatives are fixable. And the positives are pretty amazing. This brings up a tricky point we all face here. Are we lucky? No, it's not worth the price. But can the negative lead to extremely positive effects? Absolutely.

Great post Mike. Thanks.

Alex
 
WOW!!!

Mike, thanks for posting your question, because I have been actually thinking rather second guessing things in my life. Wondering if I be happier if I would have never said or if I just made different choices in my life about some things where would be. I look at my life and feel guilty because I want different things, but after reading Mike's post it kind of makes me look at my life and realize I have a great life considering everything else that has happen. I need to focus more on the positives of what I already have and less on the wants, the happiest is there, but the wants are clouding my judgment to see the positives I already have.

THANK YOU MIKE AND ALEX!!!!
 
I think it made me a better person, able to think deeper about things than normal ppl.
There are a lot of positives but a Hell of an amount of negatives.

Slowly the scales are tipping towards positive, I hope,

ste
 
THANK YOU .I BELIEVE THAT BEING RAPED HAS CAUSED ME TO LOOK AT THE WORLD FROM A DIFFRENT PERSTIVE
 
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