Has anyone here ever received an apology?

Has anyone here ever received an apology?
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RICK57

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I have been coming to this site for nearly 2 years now (what a difference it has made).

Several times now I have seen posts about forgiveness. Forgiving ourselves (something we must do) and also about forgiving our abusers.

What I want to ask of everyone here, is this:

Has any one of you ever received an apology from your abuser (not just when they are in court trying to get a reduced sentence)? One that was sincerely meant? I expect very few answers saying that this has happened!

Best wishes ...Rik

Maybe the answers that are posted will open up some more opinions on forgiveness!
 
As a matter of fact Rik, I have received an apology. Not something I care to discuss on the open forum, but it was a genuine, heartfelt apology. The situation surrounding the "abuse" was perhaps a little different from many of the stories here, and similar to others, but to little John it was damaging enough in its scope.

Courage,

John
 
I have recieved an apology as well. It was sincere and good for everyone invovled (my family). The forgiveness issue was really the difficult part. I wanted to forgive my abuser so I could move on. I talked a lot about this part of it with my therapist. I wasn't really sure how it when go when i finally brought it up with everyone after 15 years of silence. I really felt the apology was sincere and it as helped me let go of a lot of it. It didn't magically fix everything, but I really think it was a necessary step in my case. I wish the best for you Rik.

Andrew
 
I've never confronted my brother, but I just wanted to caution you that you may NOT get an apology. I believe I read somewhere that it was common for the abuser to dismiss, minimise or outright call the accuser a liar. I would think that family members might be more inclined to give a apology but this is something that you should also talk to your therapist about.
 
i'll never forgive that bastard ,if that's what it takes to heal then i'll stay the way i am ,somehow forgiving is like saying it's ok what he did to me . besides they don't want or need our forgivness how could something be heartfelt when they don't have a heart. they all deserve to die slowly,painfully .
 
Yes, I have received an apology from my mother who isn't the worst abuser in my life, though.

After I had discussed my mother's behaviour on these boards, I was going to confront her, and I did it. I said all the truth about how I had felt about her shameful actions all over my life, and it was very hard to have said this. A couple of days later, I heard an apology and I forgived her.

Alexey
 
Rik

I also got an apology from my mother. Her abuse was physical and emotional, it set me up for the SA. She accepted that fact and apologized not only for the abuse she did but for setting me up for the SA. That felt good.

Darrel
 
Yes, I got a apology. I think it was sincere, but it may have been driven by the fact that the child welfare people were on his case for another kid he was molesting. I'm not sure if this made him think through his actions and apologize or if he was just scared. I do think in some ways the guy who molested me was conflicted about what he did. Unfortunately it was too litte too late for me.
 
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