I think that’s it. If we weren’t wanted or were used but treated like crap... it leaves this unhealthy void, but also a healthy desire to FINALLY be recognised and appreciated. That acceptance and appreciation is needed with sex and body image just as much as other parts of our lives.Something I've been thinking about in relation to this topic; one of the major draws of grindr to me is the validation and the positive attention. I honestly felt like no cis-person or really any person who wasn't desperate would find me attractive. But now I look at myself in the mirror and don't instantly hate it. I feel like I'm in demand lol
Even guys who I have no interest in when they text me "hey you're hot" or "hey you're cute" I just feel good. I made a different thread about desiring male affection and I'm certain this ties in. Compliments and positive feelings I get from other men are far more impactful than anything I hear from really any woman.
I was never wanted in anyway till now.