gotta gripe a little

gotta gripe a little
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beautifuldisaster

Registrant
I just wanted to vent....or "cry" on the shoulder(s) of my friends here because I know you will understand.
Monday was scheduled to be hubbys 1st therapy appointment after our initial meeting with the therapist.
So, we wait almost a dang month.....and a lady calls Monday AM to move it to Tuesday.
So....disappointed, I call him with a huge lump in my throat as my husband is the type that has to prepare for anything of the emotional nature.
I tell him...and he says okay. SHEW
So, yesterday he gets there (hey it only took 29 yrs of his life and 3 of mine to get him there!)....and they rescheduled him at the same time as some one else!!!!!!!!!!!!! ARRRRRRRRRGGGGGGGGGGHHHHHHHHH!
So, he calls me...tells me.
I swear at this point, you feel so fragile and just want to rush in screaming.......
LOOK, HE IS READY! TALK TO HIM NOW OR I AM GOING TO FREAK OUT IN FRONT OF EVERYONE HERE...DONT YOU UNDERSTAND, OUR LIVES HAVE ROTATED AROUND THIS FOR A MONTH!!!!!!
The thing is, we really liked the therapist, and they were really appologetic...
but really....It just adds to the frustration and pain of it all.
So, now we wait til next Monday.....
****sniff***
 
I know first-hand how you feel.

I have avoided therapy for years because of a similar incident. I'd made an appointment with my T & she just never showed up! I was so upset, being in a trigger-state to begin with (after all - wasn't that the whole reason for the appointment????) that I never bothered to call her her chew her out.

She never called ME either.

So much for compassionate caring.
Just what I needed.

Good luck to both of you.
 
I'm sorry that happened to you and your husband.

I'm glad that you've got a place like this to come and vent about it.

Hey, griping is most definitely ALLOWED! We don't have to like this stuff one little bit.

I find that I have to get my frustration, anger, sadness etc. through my system before I can get to that other place that I always here people talking about.....I think it's called ACCEPTANCE.

I might have caught a glimpse of it once or twice, but I'm not living there today. Acceptance is definitely a destination for me.

Still I can look back (OK, don't stare!), glance back and see that progress has been made, the appointment, visit, miracle has been delayed but not cancelled.

Remember when we were all living in that tent on the banks of that river in Egypt, you know, the one called De Nial? Well sometimes in retrospect it may look good enough, but I know in my heart that I don't want to and don't have to go back there again.

And I'd bet that you don't either, but that doesn't mean we don't get to feel disappointed, upset, worried, sad, let down and a million other things.

By the way, you are really good at describing your feelings in the context of this situation!

Thanks for coming here and reminding me that there is a place for me too.

I know that crushing feeling of disappointment you describe so well. So often I think I have to NOT feel that way! Like I should be above it or past it. But I'm not. Stuff hurts and makes me scared.

And I need to let those feelings out so I can find a little bit of acceptance and just a tad of faith and serenity.

I'm having a really tough day today. Feeling extremely disappointed in myself--come to think of it, maybe it's my therapists fault!!! :-).

I'm hoping for a little laughter here, it's that or cry. Maybe both. Please know that I am in no way intending to make light of what's happening with you. Oh boy, do I understand. Waiting on the call from the treatment center, the police, the insurance company. Waiting is so hard for me. It really tests me and my faith.

They say that's how faith and I grow stronger. Humph! Couldn't they have thought of a better way to do it?

How about a very safe, cyber-hug? Take care and allow yourself to feel all that you want.

I'm glad you shared this. Can you tell I needed to hear it?

Regards,
 
beautiful,

I had been wondering where you were... and I was happy to see your name on here today... but I'm sorry you and your husband are feeling set back.

Did it seem like this sort of confusion was brand-new to the therapist's office? Because I understand that you really like this therapist, but if this sort of thing is going to happen all the time, it might be harder for your husband to find a new therapist a month or two down the road, after he's already introduced himself and gotten over some of the discomfort with the one therapist.

I hope you and your husband can take back your weekend... get out and remind yourselves that the journey is still happening, have a good time with each other.

(my boyfriend found his therapist through the directory on this site. I have never met the therapist, but every once in a long while I have this crazy movie playing in my head in which I am introduced to him at some random event, I burst into tears and give him a hug for reasons totally unknown to him :cool: )

SAR
 
Ah, you guys are the best! It almost makes me sad to think I could pass you on the street and not know your wonderful shiny little faces! Yet I do know your writing styles....feel the impact of your kind words...and thus feel the imprint of your being on my heart.
I had been away for two weeks to Denver for work...(boy, they tell you that the higher elevation will mess up your cake mix on the back of the box, but no one ever warns you about your head in such thin air....I still feel dizzy!)
And Danny, I wish I could cyber-hug you back. You have always been so inspirational showing your vunerabilities and downfalls and struggles....your strides and victories. You make this so much more realistic.

Again...you all are the best! Thanks for being here and for all the advice!

xo
 
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