Got a date for judgement day (possible trigger, but positive).

Got a date for judgement day (possible trigger, but positive).
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RICK57

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Arrived home from work yesterday to find a message on my answering machine - had to ring Witness Care Officer.

Rang him today & found out that a date has been set for trial early next year.

I will finally get to confront my abuser in a legal setting after 36 years of letting him get away with it.

I believe that my case is now being combined with that of another witness, that came forward after my case was publicised locally.

The perv is still pleading not guilty.

Feel weird now, (a bit like a flat battery on re-charge with a faulty connection to the mains). However I now understand the phrase: 'Light at the End of the Tunnel'.

Was just going to have beans on toast tonight, but had a Thai Special Take Away instead (food) & now having a decent bottle of wine.

If the perv will still not admit to what he did, he can rot in HELL.

I'll probably go into quiet mode again for a few days now (although I have been for the last week or so waiting for this update). I'm still here though & I'm doing this to send a message from all of us to those pervs lurking out there, that still think they have got away with their crimes!

Best wishes ...Rik
 
Rick

Just this weekend, after 18 years, I sent a letter to my home town church (protestant) and informed the church leaders there what happend at the hands of another church leader (who by the way is still in leadership). This is the first time I have ever told anyone in my hometown. I have no idea what to expect. When I sent the letter, I felt relief, power, healing...but I also felt fear. I will NOT bear this alone anymore. Eventhough I am grown, there is an inner child that needs my grownup protection. You inspire me. Give the shame back to the perp (irrespective of their response). Give it back and leave it there! I celebrate with you in this next step of your journey.
 
Rick and Devon,

I am so pleased for the both of you. I know this can't be easy, and I admire your conviction and courage so much.

Much love,
Larry
 
Rick and Devon,

Thanks for sharing this great news. Bravo. Give it back indeed!

Zipser
 
I like that - give the shame back to the perp.!

I have still managed to hold on to the shame, but this message string is giving me a little hope today. There is always a part of us that feels we deserve the shame. This is a lie!

Jason
 
Devon - well done to you also!

I fully understand the mixed emotions that you will be feeling right now. Sometimes it feels really difficult to take control back, but it's not impossible. Stay with it & don't let anyone run you down.

Everyone else, thanks for the continuing support.

Yes we can give it back, and do you know what - I've just realised that I don't feel the fear at the moment... that may come back as the court date approaches...at least now I know that I have the capacity to win.

Jason the shame was never ever ours - allow yourself to believe that. It's not our shame - we are not to blame.

I nearly always sign my posts with the comment 'best wishes'. It sounds a bit twee, but when I write that, what I mean is that 'I hope that someday everyone here can put the abuse where it belongs, and have the best life that they can have. It also means that I hope one day my wishes will be granted, and there will be no new victims that need to come here.'

Wouldn't it be fantastic if the archives of this site were used in school history lessons to honour a bunch of men, who returned childhood to all children.

Very best wishes....Rik (even more twee).
 
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