Goodbye Friends

Goodbye Friends
David,
Way to go! You are one strong young man. You asked "if I can ever do anything at all for you, let me know." You just did it. You just saved a lot of other boys from your dad. Thanks.
As the memories have come back be easy on yourself and stay with a therapist. Take a while and rest. You've earned it.
Love
Paul
 
David,

I am feeling so relieved that this is over now. Glad you made it through. I know having the memories stirred up is tough but in a way it might be a good thing in that you can just continue on dealing with this whole situation now rather then waiting for the memories to come up over the years to come. I'm proud of you. I knew you would get through this.

Dale
 
Thanks again friends, if I can ever do anything at all for you, let me know.

David
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David, you just did a Hell of a lot for all of us! I am so proud of you.

Good luck, we're here for you.
 
David,

I am not often at a loss for words, but your post here has done it to me. There are no words to express adequately my feeling of thankfulness that you've made it through this very stressful time, and with such smashing success.

You're a good man, David, and I mean MAN. You've done a man's work this past week, and done it well.

WTG David.

Lots of love,

John
 
Hi David,

Sorry for being late to your thread. I want to say that I wish you a strength to go through the court case. I know that you are a strong guy, and I hope that you will feel better afterwards. I know that!

Your friend,
Alexey
 
well its been a week now since court began and the 1st phase is now over. Yesterday I had a meeting with the Social Work people and the judge. They turned me over to the New Mexico child welfare people now. ( seems strange "child" welfare, I am sure not a child anymore after all that happened to me). I will miss California but its good to be back to my home state. I'm assigned now to a group home place somewhere around Santa Fe. It is weird being in a group place. I hope they put me back in a foster home cuz I think that would be better. The thing I am having bigger problems with now is I just can't sleep at all. Ever since the court stuff, now when I start to fall off to sleep, my mind starts to remember the past and I snap awake sweating and breathing hard and stuff. I am going buggy I guess from lack of sleep. Hope I can get over this soon. Well everyone has been so supportive and caring here that I thought maybe I should post an update on where I am.
 
David,

You have done so much so fast, and sure, I can just imagine how you must be feeling. Everything must feel so new and unpredictable, and for an abused teenager that means dangerous and unsafe.

Can I make a suggestion here? You have already gone through some harrowing episodes of telling things that required enormous courage, so you KNOW you can do this kind of thing. How about now going to your liaison person, social worker, or someone else safe and just say exactly what you said here?

One thing you didn't say in the post, though, is "I'm scared". Go ahead and do that David. You have been through hell and you have a right to be scared. You aren't a sissy if you say that; you are taking the very brave step of saying how you feel and what you need.

Hang in there - you will be okay.

Much love,
Larry
 
Thanks Larry, you are amazing! You always write, thanks so much. Well yea I guess I didn't say it but I am really scared about this. Seems like everything is out of my control still. I'm in the airport in Albuquerque, waiting for the pick up and I just feel like running. I won't though because I know I have to give this a try. I was at a group boys home before so know what to expect - all those guys strutting around trying to be the baddest rooster there. Its not that I am afraid physically, cuz its all been done to me before, its just I feel to tired to deal with it. I just want to hide in a corner or someplace. Well guess my attitude is cuz I am really tired. Larry thanks again for caring, it means alot to me, it really does.

David
 
David,

Just want you to know that I care about what happens to you. All of us do. Hope you are able to continue to communicate with us here while you go through this tough time.

Safe Hugs,

John
 
David,

Thanks for the update. Hope you can find a good home, one that feels good to you and where you are respected and supported. I think that you are an amazing young man. Your attitude after all you have been through is great. It is ok to feel anxious about whats ahead. Just know that wherever you go you are only a click away from friends and support here. I've been thinking of you and know you are going to make it through.

Dale
 
David,

Please be sure that it is the most normal thing in the world for a 16-year-old boy who has been abused and has just testified in court against his own father to feel frightened, out of control and tired. And hiding in a corner? When I was being abused (ages 10-14) I had several hiding places in our house stocked with comic books and snacks, and when I was 16 I would still have used them except I feared that my parents would figure me out or make me tell them what was wrong.

I figure you know this already, but running is never an answer. Running is never cool like it looks in the films; it puts a teenager in immediate and continuous danger of a LOT of harm. If you feel desperate and running seems attractive, please talk to someone safe about it.

I won't bullshit you about how things are in a group home; you already know the score. There will be a lot of eyeballing the new guy and a few won't know what to make of someone who's deaf. But you hang in there, be yourself and give it your best shot. I know you have the strength it takes to make this work.

Much love,
Larry
 
David,

I have not had occasion to meet you. But I must say, this is a wonderful way to meet you. You are exceptionally strong and brave, and are a wonderful man to meet. Thank you for sharing with us how good this turn out. I can only imagine how painful it was for you. But you are amazing to me, and I thank you.

Leosha
 
David,

I just want to let you know you are still in our thoughts. All the best to you as you adapt to your new surroundings and we look forward to hearing from you.

Much love,
Larry
 
Same here, David. Hope all is going well. Whatever the case, know that your brothers here are thinking of you and wishing you the best.

Lots of love,

John
 
I am so glad things keep moving,,,,,,,,,,,,I want to go after one of mine once tried but he was let go.

I have not given up.
thanks for helping me stay with this
 
David,
Your story is one of inspiration!!! You should be very proud of yourself. I sincerely wish there was a way to put you in a good family enviroment, cause God knows you have earned it! Just stay strong and remember that we are praying for you and I am extremely thankful for you. Your story gives me hope on my road to recovery. Thank you and God be with you!!!
BC
 
Hey David! Do give us an update if you feel up to it. Your friends here still remember you and wish you all the best.

Much love,
Larry
 
Yes, David.... I remember you quite well and wish you the best! Actually, thanks for the chance to get to know you a bit.
 
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