Good news: I apologized

[UniversalBeing]

Yesterday, I prayed to God for guidance.
I felt that I need to apologize to my youngest brother (8 years younger) cause sometimes growing up I was mean to him and felt resentful towards him. A lot of this had to do with my narcissistic mother who would turn us against each other, make me do her parental responsibilities for her. I think I even had to go to PTA meetings for him instead of her and had to teach him math, English, programming. I had to babysit him.

Anyhow, I send him a message and apologized to him and asked him for forgiveness. I told him I hope he knows that when people call him names or treat him poorly it is not because of him it is because of them. Also, I told him I feel we never got to know each other growing up mostly because of our parents.

He responded that he forgave me and that it takes a lot of strength and courage to apologize and that it means a lot to him. He told me great things. He feels grateful for teaching him English and programming and that that has helped him to create his business. Also, he remembered me taking him to a chocolate factory which I had forgotten. He really enjoyed that. He agrees that we never really get to know each other but we still have time. I am 33 he is 25. Also, he apologized for some bad things he has done although he does not remember much from his childhood either.

I felt so relieved and in tears.

I also sent a message to a friend of mine from Germany. Now, this was a smaller transgression. At a Christmas party, I shared something she told me and I should not have. She was next to me. She confronted me afterward and I kinda brushed it off. I always felt guilty for that so I apologized to her. Still, haven't heard back from her but I hope I do.

 

[LoneWolfX]

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[UniversalBeing]

Thanks.

My friend responded too. She says there was nothing to worry about. She thinks I did the right thing then and that I was a good friend. She told me that she is a bit concerned about me that I have brought this up after such a long time. She thinks it is sad. My friend loves me, too. I cried a lot.

 

[WG]

Universal - you have done well. It does take courage and it does take us out of our comfort zone to do what you did. Possibly the individual we are sending our apologies to does not recall the incident, however we do and then it's up to us to make amends (unless doing so causes harm).

 

[AuthenticMe]

UB - It's so great that you're doing this. A wonderful energy arises when we sincerely apologize. Several years ago I decided to go down my list of people I needed to apologize to. Not only did I receive some affirming messages from them, I started to receive apologies from several people in my past who had hurt me. One of them was my college roommate, whom I had held a grudge against from almost 20 years.

 

[UniversalBeing]

Thanks, all.

AuthenticMe I am glad to hear that. My friend also offered an apology and affirming words. It makes a world of difference to hear affirmation from a friend I trust.

 

[AuthenticMe]

Keep it up, UB. You're doing great.

 

[OCN]

You've taken some important steps, very well done! It takes courage to lay down the defenses and be open and honest with people, fully accepting that their answers might not be what you wish for. But as you can see, you've been given beautiful and encouraging answers. Very well done, opening up and taking responsibility for what we've caused in other peoples life is important and worthwhile!