Good news...bad news...somewhat worse news...

Good news...bad news...somewhat worse news...
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LostandTroubled

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So which should I tell you first?

How about the good news? Sound good? Well, the police searched Perp 2's apartment and found child porn (involving myself) in his posession. So anyway...*drumroll please* HE CONFESSED!! He really couldn't get out of it considering they had the evidence in photos and video. So there will be no trial against him and I don't have to testify. Whew...good for me. :)

Bad news...the bad news...well, the case against Perp 3 - my teacher is still not confessing to abuse. He's only confessing to statitory rape so we might still have to go to trial with him. We'll find out soon hopefully. But my parents have said that it's really up to me. If we take him to court there's really not enough evidence to convict him of abuse, but if we put him away for statitory rape he might serve as little as 6 months (could be as much as 5 years). We really don't know what to do. If we take him to court, we have no guaruntee of a conviction. So...I dunno what'll happen with that.

Even worse news - we found out Perp 2 abused his younger brother (who is my friend). My friend had refused to tell me before if abuse had occured but told me this morning before 1st period class (and during part of 1st period). He also told me that his parents drink a lot and physically abuse him (yeah, no wonder he's on drugs!). So I urged him to see the school counselor. He did and I stayed with him as he told her what was going on. Then she sent me off to class with a note (for being WAY late). Anyway, I haven't heard from my friend (neither have the two other friends who still talk to me) and I'm worried about him. I called his house and no one was home and he hasn't called or e-mailed me. So I'm really worried and I don't know where is or where he would have gone. I hope he is not back with his parents, but I have no idea where they would have taken him.

Anyway, like I said, a little good, a little bad and some worse. I'll keep everyone updated on what happens. Now I really do have to get to bed cause I have school tomorrow I wouldn't want my parents yelling at me.
Nao
 
Hello Nao,

Well, congratulation on the good news anyway. Regarding the other, whether you will have to testify or not to the other one, well, that choice is yours. I think you are very brave to have told your parents about it so soon. I did not tell my mother about it until just last year, five years after the abuse had stopped. I am sure that your parents will support whatever decision you make. AND, please know that whatever choice you make, it is the best choice for YOU at the time. Do not let anyone tell you you have done the wrong thing, or made the wrong choice. They are not 'in your shoes'.

As to the other news. Well, i am not so sure, but I think that if someone under age 18 were to disclose abuses to a counselor, that it is mandatory to be reported to legal authorities. So, that well could be reason why your friend is not home, and has not been in contact with you. He well could be in some safe environment right now, until the protection agency can have him with someone safe until the matter is dealt with. Please try to not think the worse has happened with him.

Good luck to you. I think you are very impressive.

Leosha
 
Nao:
Whether your teacher (perp 3) confesses to statutory rape or any other sexual offense. it is likely he will NEVER teach again. There is a national clearing house that screens teachers who are being considered for hire, so even if he tries to get a teaching job in another state, he will be identified.

Hang in there. It may get tougher before it gets better, but it WILL get better.
Ken
 
Nao,
You are a very strong you man. Not only to step forward for yourself and heal like you are, but to care so much for someone else so much that you will help them as well. I am sure there are going to be times you feel very alone. But try to remember your not. You have your parents and each and everyone of us to help you. You are truely a kind human
James
 
Nao:

Some good stuff there. Like I said before it will all work out in the end. I am sure your friend will be ok and that was very brave of you to go with him. Our God works in wonderful ways, you never know what might to the teacher. Keep the faith man.

Take care of yourself.
 
My thoughts are with you if you go to testify. It's going to be hard, but it'll be worth it.
 
Nao - You're a "go gettem guy"! Perp #1 is history! You got him! Teacher Perp - well, as Ken said, can't teach anywhere, no how! Can't get near kids because he can never get clearances - ever! You got him!!! Now, your friend - things usually move quickly when a child/teen is at-risk. Things are happening quickly for him and I'm sure, as he lands in a safe place, he'll get word to you! Hang in there!! You're fighting back strong!! Good job!!

Howard
 
Bless your heart man. You're going to school through all of this? You ROCK! I'm gonna be praying for you. Dan
 
Nao,

I changed my signature somewhat to a paraphrasing of a Bible quote I find useful. You are indeed one of the blessed, because you're shepharding the weak from the iniquities of evil men.

I'm sorry that the path is hard sometimes, though. But, and I think it's true, you'll find over time that it gets easier the farther down the path you go.

While I'm sot really religious in the literal sense (despite my Bible quoting!), I find that one saying, that I can never remember completely, holds true for the struggle we all are handling. "Long is the road, and narrow is the way, from Earth to the Glory of God." You're on the path, Nao, and the way is hard and narrow and twisted, but you will make it. You had the courage to stop the abuse before it went another step with these creeps. I'm proud of you for that.

I also hope you take the time to enjoy your life. I'm a great one for quoting, but from Ultimate Spider-Man, Nick Fury tells Peter Parker, "enjoy your youth. You're too young to play with the big boys....you don't have to be Spider-Man all the time. Kick back. Watch one of those crap videos with the...the booty shaking." It's something I have to remember from time to time.

Nao, you'll be okay. I'm thinking of you, your family, and your friend.

Peace and love, my brother,

Scot
 
Nao,

That's great news on the good news part.

It is really terrible on the even worse part. I know that you had suspicions and concerns about your friend and that he had been denying it and hiding from it. I am truely saddened that your fears had been confirmed.

Take care,
Bill
 
Nao,

That sounds like some very good news. Ken pointed out an important point about the bad news. I hope you will give yourself credit for the courage you showed. And Leosha has a good point about the worse news. It is very likely that your friend is someplace safer than his home while authorities prepare the case against perp 2. Again, thanks to your courage your friend has a chance to get the help that he will need to heal.

Way to go!

Thanks,

Joe
 
Nao -

just to say I'm really proud of you!

Best wishes...Rik
 
I can add nothing to what has been said above.

You are a truly COURAGEOUS YOUNG MAN and it is a privilege to know you.

I hope that your friend is ok. Someone once told me that "Mo News is Good News"
 
Hello haven't been here in awhile, but I just wanted to say it was very inspiring reading your post. Hope everything works out with your friend.
 
Nao
I'm sure your friend is safe and will be in touch soon.
Once these things get rolling nothing stops them, the 'authorities' will be making sure he's safe.

So, I think it's ALL good news, as much as sex abuse can have any good news :rolleyes: But, there's two perp's down and your friends safe.

Time now to think about yourself, and you have time on your side. I can promise you that 45yo was way too late to be dealing with this crap. Remember to have fun and do everything kids your age should be doing. This stuff is nothing more than extra homework that's still got to be done. Don't let it rule your life though.

Dave
 
Nao, many thanks for blowing the whistle on these guys. You have made the world a safer place for boys by doing that.

Bob
 
Nao,

I'm proud of you. You did the right thing.

Take good care of yourself,

Steve
 
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