Good friends don't know their value! Possible trigger.

Good friends don't know their value! Possible trigger.
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RICK57

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Just me again!

Yesterday I went to Newcastle-upon-Tyne for a boozy day with one of my best friends...the 'One that knows how to listen'.

The last time I went to Newcastle was just before I cracked up in December.

Sometimes I pretend that I'm 100% OK when I'm really only about 95% (but thats really good considering I was about 5% OK in December).

In some of the bars, I remembered what I was like in December (although at that point in December it was obvious to me, but not everyone else) and started feeling like a 12 year old again.

My friend saw right through me again & after a small discussion, I got a bollocking. Was told that if I felt down, no matter how temporarily that I must telephone other him or one of the others that know about my situation.

I said that I didn't want to piss anyone off by constantly harping on about it after so many years of living with it.

The response was 'We would all rather receive a call telling us that you were down - at least then we could bring a few cans through & watch some films. That would be so much better than receiving a call saying that we would no longer have the opportunity to do so.'

Suitably admonished...but what a brilliant friend!

Best wishes ...Rik
 
Rik,

Not sure what "bollocking" is, but you are fortunate to have such good friends! Take them up on the challenge.

Peace,

Marc
 
Marc - sorry for the English terminology! It means a telling off - in this instance for being so stupid towards myself.

Thanks for your concern...Rik
 
So, are you going to tell him what happened?

Sounds like he's a good listener and what you have to tell him.... is it off limits?

If he's a good friend, shouldn't you tell him? If he's going to abandon you, could you deal with that? And more important, would he abandon you?

Some thoughts to ponder, mate.
Ken
 
Hi Rick,

(Possible trigger!!)

Pardon me for butting in here, but I hope you are conscious of the potential for alcohol making you feel very depressed. It is a chemical depressant, and to be honest, a drinking binge was the precursor of a suicide attempt by myself many years ago. You sound OK otherwise, but I thought I should say it as a reminder.

Lean on these great friends, and may they be blessed for sticking by you as such valuable friends!! They must feel the same way about you, or they'd be gone. "Show me who a man's friends are, and I'll tell you about the man"--something like that. Good for you.

Regards,

Ed
 
Good friends don't know their value!
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Isn't that a part of what makes them such a good friend.

Surround yourself with good people and good friends.

Take care,
Bill
 
Rick
mates like that are priceless, don't piss them off too often !

Dave
PS.
For those of you that have never been to Newcastle for a drink, you don't know what you're missing !
Newcastle is the home of the hardest people in the universe, they can drink, party and fight for Queen and Country.
The last time I went was in February a few years ago and it was about -5 degrees and raining like a monsoon. But on Saturday night all the bars were full to overflowing and everyone was in summer clothes. The guys in T shirts and the girls in strappy dresses, coats are for wimps in Newcastle !
It's a terrific place for a night out though.
 
Thanks again everyone!

Ken - yes I did tell him & the others a couple of years ago (just very basic at that point - i.e it had happened).

In December I told him a lot more of the story (the script without the detail). He is now the best 'live' sounding board that I have. Earlier in the year, we developed a code representing my 'panic status' for when I went out socialising with friends...zero meaning I was OK to the point of horizontal...10 meant that I was loosing it. Since then the worst I've been was a 7 in a social setting & because I could say so, it soon reduced to about a 4.

Ken - I'm aware that alcohol can be a depressive influence, but I now only drink when I'm in a positive frame of mind....before I just used to drink. I also eat properly now...in December, I think I was just about living on Wine & Peanuts.

*I got the bollocking for saying that I didn't want to piss them off for constantly talking about it. It's quite clear that I'm allowed to talk about it for as long as I need to!

That's why I know I have good friends...I tried to explain how important that was to me...the response was a surprised 'what else would you expect?'

See there are really good people everywhere...here in cyberspace & close to my earthly home!

Thanks again...Rik
 
Dave - we must have been typing at the same time there!

We do wear coats, but it's called a beer coat & they are invisible to none natives!

It hasn't changed that much then since you were last there, except none of the girls wear blotch cream on their legs (used to be quite common up the big market...i.e. Trace & Sand in Viz).

Best wishes ..Rik
 
Rick
I think we had the funniest weekend of our lives there, it was a non stop riot.

I think I saw ALL the characters from Viz there as well :rolleyes:

Dave
 
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