Going public...maybe

[crisispoint]

Don't know if this is a good idea, but I'm frigging tired of being a victim. I want to go offensive on the perps.

I e-mailed columnist Ellen Goodman, because I liked her coverage of the priest sex abuse scandal, and told her a reader's digest version of my story, as well as requested she do a column or feature on male sex abuse. I also gave her my name and said she could use me as a resource, although I'm not sure about going public completely (this I told her too).

Another step in taking back my life. Scared? Sure, but I'm not living in shame anymore and damned if anyone else is going to, either.

Score one for me?

Peace and love,

Scot

 

[Bill_1965]

That's great Scot,

I applaud your courage. It took me a lot of courage when I called and spoke to the editor of my local area newspaper and I shook the whole time talking to him. The reporter he said would call never did and at this point I am not in a position to call back because of certain reasons I would not like to go into on the public boards.

It is a courageous step and it is quite invigorating, getting the power back and giving them the fear and shame.

Score one for the good guys,
Bill

 

[coolcat]

Way to go. We all need to take our lives back.
Keep up the good work. Take care of yourself and keep safe.
Gus

 

[LostandTroubled]

It's a good step - whether you do it or not, I'm proud of you for talking to Ellen and taking the first step in this.
Good luck.

 

[MikeNY]

GREAT!!!!!!!! WE ARE ALL WITH YOU!!!

 

[Leosha]

Congratulations Scot! That is a wonderful step! I have been doing some writing to newspapers, but have not yet had the courage to sign them. Perhaps that will be my next step, my name!

Leosha

 

[Ken Singer LCSW]

Good for you, Scot.

Just a reminder to you or anyone who talks to the media. You can only represent yourself as an individual. While we certainly want the word out there about MaleSurvivor, please bear in mind that only the officers and the board can speak for MS.

Please direct inquiries about MS from the media to Fred Tolson or Richard Gartner.

Thanks,
Ken

 

[Mike Church]

Scot doesn't it feel great to take back life. Scary too but definitely an adrenalin rush of joy.

 

[ScottyTodd]

Sick and tired of being sick and tired of being sick and tired!!! GO GET THEM, Scot!!

Howard

 

[Marcs friend]

I've often felt that some of the shame felt by victims is becuz they feel they have to hide what happened to them. It puts the burden of guilt on the victim, the shame, the hurt, all of it. Being abused isn't something that a victim should have to feel shame for - the shoe is definitely on the other foot. And when perps are exposed, when victims come forth and say hey I am not ashamed cuz i didn't do anything wrong - it was not my fault, then I think that scores a point for victims everywhere, gives each one a little bit more courage, a little more validation that yeah, it's really NOT my fault. I didn't want it, didn't ask for it, didn't cause it. If you can, if others around you won't be hurt by it, I would say go for it. Just be careful of yourself. The media is a powerful tool and misguided people can be terribly cruel. Praying for strength and peace.