Glad to have found this board...

[Donald D'Haene]

Many, many gay and straight male survivors have confided me over the years. Most were vulernable emotionally. Some would have had sex because that's one form of communication they know. I tell them, the last thing you need to do is add to your confusion by acting out behaviours you are not sure you want to be a part of. Since I have openly wrote about being gay for a decade now, and have put a face to male survivor for 20 years, it is natural for males to disclose their abuse to me. I feel a great responsibility to respond in respectful ways. Sometimes, straight (bi-curious) male victims have been surprised that a gay male would say no sexual overtones.
I've learned that sex, like any of a multitude of other choices can be an addiction, a drug-something to numb ourselves from our true feelings.
I'm so happy there is a message board like this where gay males as well as straight survivors can disclose in a safe place.

 

[Brayton]

I'm glad you found us too.

Sounds like good advice that you give guys.

Its hard to educate people about stereotypes not being true for everyone and particularly that one that assumes that all g'y men are interested only in s'x with any guy, g'y or straight they can get their hands on. Give me a break!

 

[Donald D'Haene]

Thanks for the welcome Brayton. Where are you from? I live in London, Ontario Canada.
Don't know if you saw my other posts here but I have an author web site: https://www.fatherstouch.com
Yes, we gays have so much to educate others about. Half kidding.