getting rid of objects that trigger (?)

getting rid of objects that trigger (?)
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Galapogos

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A few weeks ago I took a milk crate of vinyl (records that is) to a used record/cd store. Among the one-hit wonders and impusle buys of my youth were a few Beatle albums. I can't listen to the Beatles without thinking of my 2nd perp, I discovered the Beatles, and the Beach Boys through him. Now when I hear that music it just reminds me of him and the abuse, which sucks. Not having the records around felt like it lightened my load for a moment.

My parent's house is full of designer furniture and antiques. It occured to me that someday my brother and I would likely inheirit it all, but I don't want any of it. Some of that furniture was where my csa took place. I sort of shiver involuntarily when I think about it. I'm not sure I'd even want the money from the sale of everything.

Anybody else experience this?

I'm trying to remember other times when I heard the Beatles, or Beach Boys, and associate the music with that memory instead, but it's strange.
 
Galapogos - yes music can trigger. I have found this even with new music that wasn't around at the time. Every time I hear a Michael Jackson song is one example! There's lots of good music out there for all tastes, I'm sure that you can find something else that you like. If you have a good local music store, go in there & tell them what you like & they may be able to help you.

If you do eventually inherit your parent's goods, but don't want any of it, you can always sell it and give the money to a suitable charity. In England (UK) I would donate to Childline (telephone support line for children to talk about abuse & gain help), MIND - a charity that supports people with psychological errors. The Samaritans - a telephone support line that helps people who are distressed of feeling suicidal. That's a way of getting rid of demons but supporting others in getting rid of theirs.

Best wishes ..Rik
 
That should have been psychological issues, not errors! ....Rik
 
Galapogos,

I wonder a lot about that. All of my Boy Scout things were destroyed in a house fire at my parents' place in 1994, and as the man who abused me was a scout leader I often wonder how I would relate to that stuff if I still had it.

Last time I was back in the States I was thinking of going to the Scout camp where a lot of my abuse occurred, but I had too much else happening and was such an emotional mess that I couldn't manage it. I am still wondering should I try that one; it's almost like I am daring someone or something to try to trigger me with the associations.

Much love,
Larry
 
Not that this relates specifically to SA, but I feel the exact same way about the contents of my house right now- they trigger different thoughts and feelings that are not healty for me, so when all is said and done, I want none of it, and if I get any of it, I'll sell it.

If I had anything material that reminded me of the SA, I would be burning it, if I had not already.
 
My trick is that each time an external object triggers something within me, it means I need to heal that part in me further, till that trigger has no affect in me, as it has happened with lot of former triggers, like old realtionships, after a while they stop having any effect, they stop mattering to me, cause you have healed whatever association you has with them.
So each trigger object is actually a healing guide for me, they tell me that more work needs to be done there, till it is all clear!
 
Morning Star,

That's a good way to look at the problem. See the triggers as flags alerting us to areas where we still need more work. I guess the problem is that in the short term we will still be overwhelmed by the things that trigger us.

Much love,
Larry
 
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