getting really scared

Last night I was having trouble sleeping. I kept thinkin about things & it was bothering me a lot. I was sorta dozing & waking up & feeling anxious. Then this morning i woke up & saw my brothers bed is empty & the PC is on & our door is closed. I dunno, I suddenly got not scared but something a lot worse. It just flooded me like a wave & I broke out sweating & trembling & was thinking who came in here & whys the door shut & what happened to Mike. I was like gulping to breathe & I felt really dizzy & funny, but totally scared cos I was sure someone was in the room with me even though I couldnt see him. I had this feeling something really bad is gonna happen right now and I cant see what it is or where it will come from. I even thought somebody did something to my brother & now they took him & I just slept while it happened. So that way I got even more messed up. I got calmed down but I cant eat even tho im hungry & I keep thinking something really bad is gonna happen right now but I cant see what it is.

This never happened to me like this b4 & it really scares me. Anybody know about this? I looked in the books my Dad has (Mike Lews book & Mic Hunters book) but I didnt see anything.

Kev

 

[reality2k4]

Kev, it is not unusual to have these feelings, most of us here had them too.
The house is a safe place, even when you think it is not, this wave thing is what many experienced.

The bad happened in the past, and it will be put into the past even more soon, when other events close.

Mike has chores to do, so maybe he just got up early to finish early, but he sounds like he can sure handle himself.

Eating and sleep, are very important, so try and do both. It is not easy, but things will calm down soon, and you will feel stronger.

Do those deep breathing exercises, and try to not let so many negative thoughts take away what is real.

Dont dwell on the future, but try to see it for what it is, and look for opportunity and goodness.

Look after YOU,

ste

 

[Ivanhoe]

Ya, Kev, could be some anxiety you're experiencing. When I had episodes like that, I did push up and sit ups. I actually got into pretty good shape, and it did lessen the anxiety.
Running is what really helped. When I had to perform or do a radio/TV interview, I made sure that I got my run in before I had to do those kinds of things.
Don't forget to discuss these issues with your therapist, I'm sure he/she will have some good suggestions, if not something to help you sleep.
Sorry you have to experience this crap, the sooner you can get your story out to your therapist, the tension will ease and you won't be bothered with so much anxiety.
Good luck and stay in touch,

David

 

[sophiesdad]

Kev,

To me it sounds like you had a night terror. That's when we sort of wake up and have a feeling of doom or fear and usually it includes a feeling of an evil presence in the room. It's scary stuff. For years I would have these and it was always the same scenario. I would always wake up, unable to move, believing that there was an evil presence in the room hovering over me about to do something awful.

What helped me was to remind myself exactly where I was, and then talk myself down from the fear. It was basically a self-discussed "reality check". Only after doing this, could I open my eyes and look around the room to confirm my place and time and begin to set my fears aside.

It didn't always work, and it seemed to be worse especially when I didn't get enough sleep, or I was in a lot of extra pain. Also, as I started to confront the "demons" that have haunted me through the years from the abuse, the nightmares and night-terrors became less frequent.

If this ever happens again and you get the same feeling, try to remind yourself of the last time this happened and that nothing was wrong. It's not easy, but if you do it over and over, it gets the point across to your subconscious.

At least, that's what my experience has been....
SD

 

[roadrunner]

Kev,

Yes, as Jeff says, that sounds like a night terror. Don't feel bad about getting them. It's just one of those things, and even adults find them frightening.

Can I make a suggestion? You refer to the books by Mike Lew and Mic Hunter. They are both excellent and it's good your dad has them, but they aren't written for teenagers and they aren't reference works in the way you were trying to use them. What you need when these things happen is assurance right now that you are safe and everything is really okay. If you feel safe enough to leave your room, go find one of your parents and tell them what has happened. If you are too frightened, that's okay, really it is. Just call for help and I'm sure someone will come right away.

You should also tell your T about this. She will be able to help you better if she has a complete idea of what's going on. So far as I know night terrors occur because you are distressed emotionally, and the chance of them happening is greater if you are not sleeping regularly or if you are troubled or worrying about things. You have referred several times to not sleeping well, and your T may be able to help you here.

Take care,
Larry

 

[RICK57]

Kev - when we sleep, our minds process the information that we have taken in throughout the day.

Sometimes that manifests itself in weird dreams...some good, some bad.

A bad dream doesn't mean that you are making negative progress - it's a bit like hoovering dust out of a rug (the rug looks better, but will always retain some dust).

*If it's any consolation, I tend to have my worst dreams when I've made most progress.

Best wishes ...Rik