gave my phone number

[Sterling]

Last night I went to a gay mens group. It is every other
Sunday.
We watched a movie....it was a thriller.
Hated this.
Then later I gave a guy my phone number.
I lost my attraction to him few moments later.
And later he asked me if I would like him to call me later on.
I was scared and I panicked ! I said in a few days.
I don't know what my dad and his family were but ....to do
this shit to me.
What is my problem?
Problem...is I don't know what to say to this guy ,,,should
he call me.
Why is it I am attracted to certain men?
Maybe needing a family. Wanting a dad so bad.
How does this come out the wrong way?
And I don't know ....
anyway....I don't want to do this. to this woman here
at a government office. I flirted with her before.
I want a mom.
She isn't a mom. not to me!
and this is not okay.
Don't want to do this anymore.
But wanting a love.
love love love.
that is it.

Has anyone ever done this stuff?
And any advice if this guy should call...

thanks for reading this and my other posts.
Goran

 

[peroperic2009]

Hello Goran, good to see you here !

I'm sorry that you have been caught in this situation but the good thing is that you can always make some excuse and avoid unwanted communication buy saying that you are busy or not answering to unknown calls/phone numbers.

I've been in similar situation two years ago when one girl started to call me very often after I meet her on one trip. She was talkative and nice and as favor she asked me for my phone number. Back than I didn't know how to handle such situation and I just gave it even I knew that I did wrong thing. Other day this girl started calling me on daily basis and talking like we are having plans to start some kind of relationship which was too much for me.

I didn't know how to handle that and at the beginning I didn't reply but she was very persistent and at the end I told her that I'm very busy and not interested to hang around.

I hope you would find a way to manage this.

Take care,

Pero

 

[Nothing Man]

Goran, the journey of self-discovery is not easy. What I have come to conclude is that sexuality is a bit fluid, and that it is possible to be attracted to both men and women. There is no shame in SSA and certainly no shame in acting on it. We are what we are, and we do not choose to be straight, bi or gay. We just are.

Give yourself some compassion and love. You deserve it. Take time to figure out what you want and what you may be without shame. Be proud of yourself.

Mike

 

[woodenshoes]

Goran

My two cents. Tell him the truth. Tell him you want a friend and see where the friendship goes it could be just a coffee friendship or if more later thats up to you.. You may have to see him at group again and dont want to put yourself in a uncomfortable situation. You both would lose.

Ws