Found my perp (part 2)

Found my perp (part 2)
Hauser

Hauser

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https://www.malesurvivor.org/cgi-local/ultimatebb.cgi?ubb=get_topic;f=1;t=007186

This previous post happened last summer. I have not spoken to her since, even though wrote down her phone# and email address.

I just emailed her out of the blue, early yesterday, and she has not replied yet. Here is a copy of the email that I sent her. I STILL don't know if she was "playing dumb" the whole time. It disturbs me that she never once asked why her brother, who was 25 or 26 then, was hanging around with a nine-year-old boy.

Well here is a copy of the email that I just sent her. I'll let you guys know if she replies and what she says:

Hi again. This is Alan, I came to visit you last summer in the hopes of finding out what ever happened to your brother. I just wanted to thank you again for the time you gave me and to let you know that you were a most gracious host to a sudden stranger. J

I hope all is well with you. Please feel free to drop a line any time. Could you send me some pictures of him please?


So..............well there you go. I asked for some pictures cuz I was gonna post them in the pictures DB, titled "Profile of a Perp!"

Maybe I shouldn't even go here, I don't know, but I've LOOKED inward for answers and they're NOT there!!!!
 
Hauser,

I don't think people get that curious when they see grown men hanging around with boys, especially an older boy. I hang around with some of my friends' sons and nobody bats an eye. She may have honestly thought that you were friends.

By the way, not to be judgemental, but I think asking her for his picture so you can post it here is a bit dishonest. She may have no idea of his activities and she may love her brother, so posting his pics would be very unfair to her, especially after she was so nice to you. Just a thought.

Here's another thought. Let's say for a minute that this woman is legit; and that she is really a good person. This could be healing for you, even if you never tell her what her brother did. At the very least, your relationship with her is positive, which says to me that there is some good that is coming out of your visit with her. My recommendation is keep the relationship positive. If she sends you some pictures, it means she trusts you. Do what you want with the pictures, but please think twice before you post them publicly and violate her trust.

Nobby
 
You know what nobby? You're right. Thank you for your input, I won't lie to her, she still has not replied. You're absolutely right.

I'm going to call her if she doesn't reply in the next couple days.
 
You guys, she has not responded to my email. May I please inquire the opinions of you guys who have followed this story? Should I call her?

Brian? Do you really believe that this is not the way to go? I've heard you tell me once that the way for recovery (however you define it) is within ME, but that's not working. I've stopped therapy cuz it didn't help. Should I look for another one?
 
Hauser,

My gut feeling is to fore go calling her. She is not at fault for the things that happened to you at the hands of her relative. Is she truly in a place where she can be of assistance to you in your healing journey? My judgment of that is no, based on the fact that you haven't heard from her, and even if you had, is there anything she could really help you with? Probably not.

Just my inexpert opinion, Bro. Should you begin seeing another therapist. If I were in your position I would give it another try.

Lots of love,

John
 
it is possible she was put off by the request for a picture, especially if she has started to wonder why you were hanging out with him given the large age difference. i mean i am just guessing, but maybe it weirded her out.

i wouldnt push it too much... unless of course you are planning to tell her the truth. but if you arent, i would just leave it be. i think it must be a little strange to her to have you come around asking about him and wanting pictures and things, especially if she has some suspicion about what he did, and maybe thinks you will use it against him somehow.
 
Hauser,

I have no doubt that the answers you are looking for will be found within you. I'm 1000% sure of this!

I will send you a PM to elaborate.

Recovery is Possible!

Brian
 
PLEASE tell me how that you found them
 
if you know his name and he ever got busted for sex crime you can check the sex offender registry in the state where he might have been busted.
 
He died back in 1994, before Megan's Law and sex offender registries even started I think. However, is there a way to check on someone's past even though they're dead? I would like to know if he was ever arrested for anything.
 
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