Forgiveness again, very long
I have been here, and considered to tell one of these people who abuse me that I will give him forgiveness, like I post before. It have not been ver ygood week here, for me or for really any of our group who is at this competition. Just have been long year.
I make mistakes here, and get angry and upset with myself, and first I think no, maybe I will not do this forgiveness, because I get angry with him too. Like it is, that he make me do mistakes? That is just wrong. Maybe things he done in past affect me, in different ways, every day. But still, my actions are my own. My mistakes and messing up with things, that is my own. I control myself, and am responsible for what I do. So, if I blame him for how I do here, or next year, in competing, that just is stupid.
So I seen this man, last night, because he been here all week also, of course. I seen him before, earlier in week, but needed more to concentrate on things. But I seen him last night, with friend of mine with me. I think he was quite surprised, to have me approach him, because normal if I see him, I will just look away and try to be away from him.
He say something to me, and I tell him I need to say something to him. I was quite surprised he do not walk away, it look like he is going to. I tell him that what he done to me, what he done to others, it is worse thing anyone can do to another person. He start to say something like he do not know what I am talking of, and I just ignored that and I keep on talking, which I know is very rude. I tell him that it is quite easy to see he is afraid now, afraid of us. Because he continue to try to threat, or scare, these people he have hurt, to try to keep control of us. That I think it is sad, that he do not have such control in life, he think he must do that to have any control in anything.
I tell him that the report I make on him, with the police last year, it is still there. (I know that really been done of it, but maybe he do not know that? I don't know). That I will report him again if I feel like it. Because that is MY control now, and it will never be gone again. He can not change that. He can not undoe what was done, and he can not make me forget it, or ignore it, or not care of it. Because he do not have me in his power no more.
But then I tell him, I do not know what make you into this creature you are. I do not care what life did to you. That is not my care, because my care is what life does to me and to people I love. Maybe something happen to make him this evil person. I think really it must be that, because I like to think that God do not make just evil persons. But, I am sorry for him, and his life. To have to live in that fear, always, to have to lose it all from one person saying something to right person. To have to live his life looking behind him always, and to not be able to enjoy now and future. That is something very sad to me.
And that it will be for God to decide what will become of his soul. But that me, I am able to feel in my heart for him, and pray for him, and to forgive him for his behavior of me. Not legally forgive him, that will not happen. If he is to be held legally responsible, then he will, I will not stop that, I will help it. But from inside me, to whatever dark things are inside him, I am able to move on from what he did to me. Not because of who he is. But because of who I am. He has given me opportunity to be more of a man then maybe I would have been. I do not thank him for that, never, of course. But I have raised myself above of him and that. And I am happy with who and what I am, and what is ahead in my life. I am sad that he has arranged for his life to be basically over already. (I am reading this back, what I said to him, and I am realizing maybe it is not forgiveness I said. I did not actually say that word, but I can not remember exactly how I say it.)
I did tell him that I will continue to pray for him. I do not know it will work, but I will try I suppose.
When I was speaking to him, his face was mostly just straight, just not showing nothing. He did not even say nothing, to tell me I am stupid or liar or anything, which I think he will do. But when I tell him I still will pray for him, and that I am sorry for what he has created as his life, I seen something in his face, in his eyes. I seen not the monster I always think he is, and maybe he is. But I seen someone scared, and someone human. And something else, that I am not sure what it is. Not relief. Maybe guilt, I am not sure. But something soft. Something I never seen in him before. And this is someone I train with almost full 7 years. I think I seen every look on his face before. But never that one.
And after all of that, after that speaking to him, he stand there and stare at me for a minute I think, and then walk away. I am no sure what I would thought if he say anything, I do not know what he would have been able to say. I am glad he did not try. My friend, who know of the history with this man, and most of other things, give me a hug, and for one of few times, it feel ok.
The week has been very long, the season have been very long in sport. But now, the disappointing of what I done this week, it is not so bad. I can feel more good of myself I think then I would if I even won here. (well, maybe not that!) But I was human. And I get to see someone else as human. And know that myself and my life is already, so much, better then what his ever was or will be. I do feel sad for him. But I feel happy now for me, and for all of us here, who have more positive things for us then those who hurt us.
I have been writing of this for few hours now, need to try to go to sleep. I am sorry this is so long.
andrei
I make mistakes here, and get angry and upset with myself, and first I think no, maybe I will not do this forgiveness, because I get angry with him too. Like it is, that he make me do mistakes? That is just wrong. Maybe things he done in past affect me, in different ways, every day. But still, my actions are my own. My mistakes and messing up with things, that is my own. I control myself, and am responsible for what I do. So, if I blame him for how I do here, or next year, in competing, that just is stupid.
So I seen this man, last night, because he been here all week also, of course. I seen him before, earlier in week, but needed more to concentrate on things. But I seen him last night, with friend of mine with me. I think he was quite surprised, to have me approach him, because normal if I see him, I will just look away and try to be away from him.
He say something to me, and I tell him I need to say something to him. I was quite surprised he do not walk away, it look like he is going to. I tell him that what he done to me, what he done to others, it is worse thing anyone can do to another person. He start to say something like he do not know what I am talking of, and I just ignored that and I keep on talking, which I know is very rude. I tell him that it is quite easy to see he is afraid now, afraid of us. Because he continue to try to threat, or scare, these people he have hurt, to try to keep control of us. That I think it is sad, that he do not have such control in life, he think he must do that to have any control in anything.
I tell him that the report I make on him, with the police last year, it is still there. (I know that really been done of it, but maybe he do not know that? I don't know). That I will report him again if I feel like it. Because that is MY control now, and it will never be gone again. He can not change that. He can not undoe what was done, and he can not make me forget it, or ignore it, or not care of it. Because he do not have me in his power no more.
But then I tell him, I do not know what make you into this creature you are. I do not care what life did to you. That is not my care, because my care is what life does to me and to people I love. Maybe something happen to make him this evil person. I think really it must be that, because I like to think that God do not make just evil persons. But, I am sorry for him, and his life. To have to live in that fear, always, to have to lose it all from one person saying something to right person. To have to live his life looking behind him always, and to not be able to enjoy now and future. That is something very sad to me.
And that it will be for God to decide what will become of his soul. But that me, I am able to feel in my heart for him, and pray for him, and to forgive him for his behavior of me. Not legally forgive him, that will not happen. If he is to be held legally responsible, then he will, I will not stop that, I will help it. But from inside me, to whatever dark things are inside him, I am able to move on from what he did to me. Not because of who he is. But because of who I am. He has given me opportunity to be more of a man then maybe I would have been. I do not thank him for that, never, of course. But I have raised myself above of him and that. And I am happy with who and what I am, and what is ahead in my life. I am sad that he has arranged for his life to be basically over already. (I am reading this back, what I said to him, and I am realizing maybe it is not forgiveness I said. I did not actually say that word, but I can not remember exactly how I say it.)
I did tell him that I will continue to pray for him. I do not know it will work, but I will try I suppose.
When I was speaking to him, his face was mostly just straight, just not showing nothing. He did not even say nothing, to tell me I am stupid or liar or anything, which I think he will do. But when I tell him I still will pray for him, and that I am sorry for what he has created as his life, I seen something in his face, in his eyes. I seen not the monster I always think he is, and maybe he is. But I seen someone scared, and someone human. And something else, that I am not sure what it is. Not relief. Maybe guilt, I am not sure. But something soft. Something I never seen in him before. And this is someone I train with almost full 7 years. I think I seen every look on his face before. But never that one.
And after all of that, after that speaking to him, he stand there and stare at me for a minute I think, and then walk away. I am no sure what I would thought if he say anything, I do not know what he would have been able to say. I am glad he did not try. My friend, who know of the history with this man, and most of other things, give me a hug, and for one of few times, it feel ok.
The week has been very long, the season have been very long in sport. But now, the disappointing of what I done this week, it is not so bad. I can feel more good of myself I think then I would if I even won here. (well, maybe not that!) But I was human. And I get to see someone else as human. And know that myself and my life is already, so much, better then what his ever was or will be. I do feel sad for him. But I feel happy now for me, and for all of us here, who have more positive things for us then those who hurt us.
I have been writing of this for few hours now, need to try to go to sleep. I am sorry this is so long.
andrei