Forgiven and hate!?!?

Forgiven and hate!?!?
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Forgive? Can I ever have Forgive, Forgive for which he and her me have done? Do I have to Forgive to be able? Do I have to let it triumph? Hate? Can I ever stop me and hate her? To hate for which they did to me for which I certified have? Do I have to stop it to hate? Do I have to let it triumph? :confused:
 
No one can tell you what to do in that. I forgive some things, for me. Not for them. I pray for them because how I think,not because how they act. I do not hate, again, for me, not them. Maybe things these men done do deserve some hate. But from me, it just bother me more. I deserve better then that. So I choose not to. Only you can decide what feels best to you. Nothing is right and nothing is wrong.

andrei
 
I could only forgive if I was 200% certain that they had stopped. I am -200% certain that mine has stopped!
 
I want to forgive myself for letting it go on so long. I want to not hate myself. Forgiving them, I don't know if I can or want ot.

You don't have to decide right now. give yourself time. Andrei said it well, there is no right or wrong.
 
Oops slipped up there - I am 200% certain that mine has stopped very recently because he is being watched. Once he thinks he is out of the woods though he will be back to his old tricks. I need to be convinced that he has stopped permanently of his own accord before I could even consider forgiving him - I think this will only happen when he stops breathing.
 
I forgave, WHY? Because I had to, God taught me to forgive and to a child, that is God's wish so I did forgive.

I forgave because it was eating me alive, the loathing of this underbreed, the immense hurt, the mental breakdown, somehow it felt better to forgive, but it really is hard to do.

I had to feel the guilt of him not being caught adn doing it to other kids, the other guilt of everything else it did to me.

The thought that I might have passed him und der strasse, and just walked past him, because his face was blacked out of my mind.

The guilt of a young child, none of it was his, but he felt so much guilt about loads of things it did to him, feeling dirty, odd. Maybe, but I fought it as a kid, and I won.

I think forgiving is so much easier than hating them, because we can only take it out on ourselves unless we can have them jailed.

It is good for you to get all this out after so long, there is a lot of hurt in there meine freunde,

ste
 
Forgiven? God? Sorry please however I am not very belives to God. In a place of the Bible which I leave, "Gott hears each Prayer" But, why has it me never helped? A boy 10, 11 or as old I it was also why he heard my 1000 prayers and left itself alone? Why only? :confused:
 
I was also boy of 11, he takes my life, I despair so much, enough to kill the child within, it is causing so much despair, it is so hard to imagine, but you know about the absolute abandonment of others you live with in society who choose not to want to know your pain.

I only say forgive to protect yourself from the hurt, not the abuser.

The pain is so much for anyone to bear, it is unbearable, but do not take it out on yourself,
it should never be your burden,

ste
 
I white which you mean, and please believe me I wanted nothing wrong now to say. I know 2 Gods, no! Know do I or better its "Slaves" and I wish everything to the other God believe, which is as much better he, as he further above is.

Your star, your star
 
Forgive? No I don't think you have to. What happens to us is past forgiveness. I don't want to hear people tell me to forgive. Not until I hear sorry.

Bronc
 
Andrei says it nicely. He has forgiveness in him, because that is how HE feels best about it. I don't feel the need to forgive, I don't, and I'm fine with that. We each need to do what makes us feel best with things. He is not wrong, I am not wrong. We do what we each must do for our own comfort.

leosha
 
Forgiveness is in my thinking one of the most misunderstood concepts out there. To me,forgiveness is for the person wronged, not for the one doing the wrong. It is for one's peace of mind, to release one from being bound by the hurt of another's wrongdoing. I have no hope whatsoever of hearing any apology from two of my perps (I'm not even sure they are alive), that doesn't mean I can't forgive them. It does not by any means free them from responsibility or accountability for what they did.
 
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