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Hi,

I don't know really what to say here because I have been reading a lot fore a few days and just makes me feel like I don't belong here.

I was only abused by one person twice. My therapist tells me I was abused. But it was so long ago. I don't know what to think.

Bronc

PS Thank you!
 
If you don't know what to think, then therapy and coming here is good for you. It will help you to work through it all. As for the number of times or number of people, once and one is one too many.
 
Bronco,

Like urself i was abused by one person 2-3 times. at first i thought "oh it wasnt that bad, prob didn't even effect me that much" wow was i in denial. The true is it has shaped my life. For better or worse im not exactly sure yet. Since im just starting the recovery so for now i'll say it was for the worse....but hey i have faith it willl get better one day at a time....anyways i want you to know that you do belong here, there is no reason why not. well maybe i should say u are definetly welcome.
if you need someone to talk to im here...just private msg me..

take it easy

Lando
 
Bronc,

First of all, I want to welcome you. I wish you had never had to find a place like this, but we are glad you are here.

As Mike said, once is too much. It doesn't matter whether you were molested twice by one person or multiple times by more than one.

You are a survivor. That is all that counts.

Go easy on yourself. As time passes, you will see that you are a survivor just as much as I am.

If I can be of help, please PM me.

Again, welcome!

Peace,

Marc
 
Hi,

I felt the same way when I first came here. But I needed to get it off my chest. Some here I still believe have been abused much worse than I ever was, but it still doesn't lessen my abuse, or yours. The number of times and with whom like MikeNY said doesn't matter. You were abused, and you are welcome here just as much as any of us are.

Hope things get better for you,
Jon
 
Bronco,
When I first came here, I did not think I would ever feel like I belonged. All here have embraced me with open arms. No matter how many abusers or instances of abuse we have, we are still survivors. THe important thing is that now you have found the best group of me on this Earth. We will always be here for you. Just ask.

Casey
 
Hey, Bronco, I hope that you find what you need here, or at least what encouragement you need to support you as you recover what might have been lost in what happened to you.
Some of us were affected greatly by what happened to us and some of us have not suffered as much.
Whatever your condition and whatever you want to accomplish while you are here, we welcome you with open arms and accept you into our rag tag army of survivors.

David
 
It doesn't take much to skew a kid's view of the world and the way people are supposed to act. One time is too much.
 
Hello, Bronc,

Glad you had the courage to post for the first time.

That's a really big step.

There is no schedule or routine to follow here.

It's all up to you. Take what you like and leave the rest.

Do and say what feels best for you.

Meanwhile, relax, take a deep breath.

We're glad you're here.

Regards,
 
Hey Guys,

My name is mike, and I am new here. I am looking to make some new friends, and build a support group.

I am 42 years old, and honestly don't fel a day over 35. I am prior US Air Force, and was sationed over in Germany fot 2 years back in the early 80's.

My abuse started when I was just 10 years old. Let me back up, when I was just 7 years old my mom devorced my bological (real) dad because of his drinking problem.

I am the oldest child of 3. I have one sister 2 years younger, and one younger brother by 5 years.

My mom later remarried and my step father was a pedifile who focused on me from the time i was 10 until I was 17. When I was about 12 I started smoking pot which both my mom, and my step father smoked although my mom insisted that they never smoked in fron of any of us kids.

I would go and visit my real dad, and he would let me drink.

I feel that I must explain that the reason I drank, and smoked was to escape from my screwed up life. I knew that I was going to be mantally screwed up for the rest of my life, because of my #$#$%&#& !!! step father.

What I did not know is that my respect for authority figures would be destroyed, and to this very day I often find myself in the middle of rebelling.

Well, again "hello" and I am really looking forward to getting to know some of you.

With Love,

Mike
 
Hello Bronco,

Welcome to the Discussion Board. I hope you find MaleSurvivor as helpful I have.

Talk to you in chat again,
Bill
 
Hi Bronco,
I know this can be overwhelming. Reading all this stuff that some of the guys have been through makes me cringe and my heart goes out to all. I too was only abused by one person, but it was over a number of years. I was not treated as badly by my abuser as some, in fact my abuser treated me much better than my physically abusive father, which I feel added to the ability for this to go on for so long! Just because I was not treated as badly or abused by as many does not trivialize my abuse or let my abuser off the hook. There is no level of abuse or number of abusers that is acceptable and the more I have delved into my life, the more I have seen how my attitudes, choices and actions have been tainted by that contact. I am glad I found this place, and I'm glad it was here for you to find. Please don't feel "out of place" by comparing your experience to anyone else's. Each of us is unique and each of our experiences are unique as well. There are no "levels" of abuse here, just the abused trying to cope.
Broken
 
Having come here on and off over the last 3 years I know how great this place is and what caring men we all are.

Bronc Welcome You do belong here.

It does my heart good to see 6 new names to me on this post. Not like any of us want to be here but what a great place to help in our Healing.
Welcome to all the others new men here.
Tom
 
Originally posted by Bronco:


I was only abused by one person twice.
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There is no 'only' here. Abuse is wrong. Abuse is wrong. Abuse is wrong. Make a statement?

Anyone who has need of this site, anyone who has reason to be here, has reason to be here. And it is a terrible, awful reason. Please do not negate or minimize what you have been through. It is not at all fair to yourself, and enough wrong has been done. I hope that you continue here, and allow it to be help to you. And welcome.

leosha
 
Sorry, but you do belong here, Welcome.
Yes, once is more than enough. My excuse for not thinking it was Sexual Abuse in my personal case was *well...I don:t think he had a hard on and he didn:t come...*. I called in an Extended Melvin, since pulling my shorts up too-high was how it started...but it didn:t stop there. For me it was *only* a half dozen of the most horrible memories of my life, and it:s changed the entire course of my life.

We all try to find excuses for not being part of this group, but the onetime abused and the one-hundred times abused have in common the same Horror Show footage replaying in memory. You are now playing that footage a little slower and getting Meaning and Giving It meaning. It:s your story, but someBody else wrote some Bad Script on your Empty Pages. Now you get to start Revision on your next daily Film Review, I hope your next Films are famously Happier. We are here if you are over-budget, Sorry again, but Welcome. Glad you have a doctor for support!!
 
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