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I realy need some imput on this please. Sorry haven't posted for a while.I am doing police report with out a TP and I can't help feel that I am trapped for I did show my wife one of the post that I wrote and after I read it to her she didn't now what to say. I think some it took her by surprise. I have told my wife about the abuse but not in such detail.Getting back to the police report ther is going to be a investagation and the person who took the info said he will be getting back to me and also said hope we find him so you can file a cival suit against him.Am i wrong to want to do this for I feel that my inasince was talking from me along with my virginity. If something did happen to go in my favor I would use these resourses to help others come forward and not be afraid. The pain during and after the call and still am emotional but I do feel that this is a step in knowing that I have done something to help others if he is still abusing little boys. Bill
 
Bill,

I'm always glad to hear whenever someone takes a step like this. I did the same kind of thing 5 years ago. Unfortunatly, we were not able to lock the monster up, but I was convinced that he had not abused anyone else in a very long time.

It also helped me let go of the shame and guilt that had been holding me back for over 25 years. My life is better now than it has ever been. My present and future are very bright! You deserve the same thing! Go for it!

Recovery Is Possible!

God Bless,

Brian
 
Bill,

I applaude your determination to see that the truth comes out and that justice is done, but through all this please also watch out for YOU my friend.

Once an official legal confrontation begins the abuser's lawyer will turn on you as fair game. His goal will be to make you look like a liar, or else as an unreliable witness. You may have to appear in court and testify, and that will expose you to a lot of hostile and triggering questions.

Are you saying in your post that you don't have a T? If this is the case I would urge you to consider looking for one. I personally think professional support is what we need to get us past the issues involved in CSA anyway, and when a legal battle is added to the situation that makes the need for this support especially urgent.

Just some thoughts.

Much love,
Larry
 
Bill,

Like Brian, I too get encouraged whenever someone steps up to say enough. About 4 years ago I was able to file a civil suit against the man who abused me back in the mid to late 60s. I had carried his guilt and shame for all that time and that POS went through those years without a care in the world. I am convinced I was not the only one he did this to and I just wish I could have been there to see his face when the sherrif delivered the notice that he was being sued for what he did to me.

It took some time but I agreed to an out of court settlement a little over a year ago at the urging of the judge. Like Brian, my life is better and I look forward to a great future with my wife and sons. I posted something about what I was experiencing going from survivor to thriver so I'll see if I can find it and bring it back up for just one person's perspective on taking the action you are contemplating.

This is about your recovery, though, so please keep in mind that what helped me, and it did, may not do the same for you.

I think the absolute last thing abusers want is for people (adults) to know what they have done or what they are doing. I think abusers are failures in the adult world with no power or influence and have to exert power over innocent children's lives to compensate for being the losers that they are in the real world.

As Brian posts, you deserve a bright present and future and recovery is indeed possible. There are many such stories at this wonderful site.

Good luck and feel free to PM me with any questions you may have.

Best regards,

Paul
 
Bill,

I congratulate your courage, because each one of us who complain, will make abusers aware that guys are coming out and talking about it, and hitting these perps.

It is encouraging to see how many are coming forward in my own Country, and saying they have had enough of this terrible secret.

If I was a perp, I would be quaking in my boots just knowing that history is being uncovered, and their dark secrets will emerge.

The constant wait for the knock on the door, to put them in Hell where they belong,

ste
 
Bill,

Somebody posted recently about the effects of someone speaking out and how that act meant that perhaps one fewer child had to deal with the pain and trauma that we've had to experience.

It's a brave thing for you to do.

ste, you're right. The more we speak up the more the abusers have to fear that today is the day when that knock at the door means their time has come.

Regards,

Paul
 
Bill,

I reported a perp to the police a couple years ago, too. The statute of limitations in PA had expired, but there was still an investigation.

What you have done is going to protect kids you will never meet. It's going to give hope to many other guys who have been struggling to face the abuse in their own pasts. But perhaps best of all, though it might not feel that way right now, it's going to help you reclaim your life and yourself.

Please do take good care of yourself right now. You deserve it.

Thanks so much,

Joe
 
Good work, Bill. Glad you were able to follow through. Know that we'll be here to help you through this in any way we can.

Lots of love,

John
 
I filed a police report as well, 2.5 years after the rape, and it was definitely a turning point for me. I hope it has similar healing effects for you.
 
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