feel like crap-3 days in bed

[KMCINVA]

Victor

Sorry to hear of your troubles. Sometimes one can go into a funk but it passes. Think of something you enjoy doing, push yourself to participate in that activity. Try to laugh. I find laughter can lift one's spirits.

I hope it passes very soon. Take care of yourself. We are thinking of you.

Kevin

 

[scottart]

I have that too Victor and take medication for it. Sometimes I'll just lay there, not sleeping, with my eyes closed. When I am going through it I also binge eat junk food. It's not a good place to be.
It's a self destructive thing we tend to do. Looking at it that way may help.

 

[victor-victim]

i found a way out of my depression.

i was down and detached until two days ago.

my 15 year old daughter and her friend, a 15 year old foreign exchange student who is here as our houseguest under my legal guardianship, were struck down by a speeding sportscar while on a crosswalk a block away from our home.
i spent 40 hours without sleep on a vigil, while trying to deal with raw emotions and real problems and police and long distance parents and doctors and lawyers and consulates and dentists and insurance companies and hospitals, but i can only be thankful that the girls were not killed.

they both are badly injured... concussions, hemorrhages, catscans, mris, xrays, contusions, abrasions, cuts, scrapes, bruises, stitches, crutches, headaches, memory loss, mood swings... NO BROKEN BONES!
my daughter flew about 10 meters, and her friend went through the windshield and stayed on the hood of the car.

the driver stopped, called 911, attempted first aid, and was arrested and charged with a number of offences. he was not impaired. just young and negligent.

i am very worried.

the good news is...
i am not lost in my own thoughts anymore.

the girls have been discharged into my care.
i need to have our guest ready to fly home by sunday... 48 hours from now.
my daughter cannot walk proper yet.

please pray for me and my family.

 

[Still]

Oh good Lord!

That made me dizzy in shock.

So thankful they are in better condition than the likely outcome.

I don't know what to say or do other than to pray fervently, which I will do!

 

[traveler]

i will be praying.

Thankful that they survived,
lee

 

[Bardo]

Jesus, Mary and Joseph. Sending prayers for health and recuperation to the children and for strength and peace to you and your family. Keep strong.

 

[finallyhere]

Victor - I am so glad to here they will be ok. Tragedy certainly can jolt us back into life very quickly. Glad you are back but so thankful that things will improve.

 

[victor-victim]

still.
traveller.
Bardo.
finallyhere.


thank you so much for your kind words and concern.

deeply appreciated.

my daughter is slowly recovering her
memory of events that day.
it is hard for me to witness her struggle with the
understanding of her situation.

all i can do is observe and assist.

tomorrow airport.
monday doctor.
tuesday lawyer.

this is just beginning.

 

[tbkkfile]

Hi Victor

I'm so glad she's recovering, I'd have gladly taken on all of the hurt, pain and injury myself when my daughter ended up in hospital, anything to make her feel better.

My thoughts are with you all

David

 

[victor-victim]

i know exactly what you mean, tbkkfile.



i would gladly trade places
with either of these girls,
especially my daughter.

i just put the foreign guest student
on an airplane back to her country.

i won't feel relieved until she is safe
in her own home with her family.

that will be about 12 hours from now.

it was a real joy having her here for 3 months.

it went by too fast.

my daughter is able walk a little bit now with crutches.
she is not in a good mood though.

 

[Bardo]

Ha good to see she is up though. I have a 15 yo daughter as well and cherish her. thank God she is going to be okay. All my best to you and yours.

 

[victor-victim]

thanks Bardo.

i am relieved to hear that my daughter's friend is
back with her family.
i can now fully focus on my daughter's needs.

it's apparent.
i'm a parent.

my purpose is obvious.

i am dealing with big scary words like "traumatic brain injury"
and "cerebral hemorrhage" .

don't want to worry but i must remain vigilant.

 

[Bardo]

Funny how our kids put things in perspective for us! Still praying.

 

[Sonata1]

Adding my prayers to the others. I hear you about willingly taking on pain rather than watching your children experience it.

 

[victor-victim]

so lonely.
craving contact.

 

[traveler]

V -
is there anything we can do?
a meeting of minds is not the same as face-to-face, i know.
but we are here for you, if you want to put something out there and get some replies.

with you in spirit, if not physically,
Lee

 

[victor-victim]

thanks lee.
appreciated.
just wish i had someone to hang out with.
typing is simply not the same.

 

[tbkkfile]

I understand what you're saying Victor and you're not alone with these feelings.

I wish that there was more that I can say or do to help, but like Lee I'm here for you in spirit

 

[victor-victim]

thank you too tbkkfile.

human contact.

feels good.

even through the digital distortion.


yes indeed... lonely... but not alone.
ironic, isn't it.

 

[Bardo]

V-V,
It is ironic, how we can be surrounded by people and yet totally alone. I spent so many years growing up with groups of people, yet feeling utterly alone and isolated. Just now beginning to understand the extent of that loneliness and its enormous effects on my life. Its good to know folks are here, and always ready to hear your story and give you support! I'm glad I found this place.